I have been quite an expert on fast pick-ups. But there's one problem that I want to share with you.

You see, even though guys that can pull these off enjoy not only success with women straight out of a fantasy world and typically get women obsessed with them, with a fast pick-up comes a big problem...

SOMETIMES FAST PICK-UPS DON'T BECOME A RELATIONSHIP.

Sometimes a fast pick-up becomes a one night stand instead of converting it into a relationship.

Well, its fine for those that has that intention.

But a lot of times, you DO want to see the woman again - or possibly start a relationship with her.

Here's something I want you to know - In the past 2 years EVERY girl I have slept with has been under 4 hours.

And EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. wanted to see me again...

So why am I saying this?

I'm saying this NOT to brag. But I'm saying this so that you can realize the great amount of value I can offer you as a client of mine, and to prove a very important thing:

“HOW FAST YOU SLEEP WITH A WOMAN IS “NOT THE BASIS” TO START  A RELATIONSHIP WITH HER.”

In fact there are three major points on how to have a continuing intimate relationship with a girl...

And this time I will reveal a few myths about this.

3 MYTHS ABOUT FAST PICK UPS

MYTH #1: "Build a 7+ hours comfort" with the girl before sleeping with her.

As I said, the amount of time you spend with a girl has nothing to do in sleeping with her.

In fact it has almost NOTHING to do with anything you do before you sleep with her. The secret lies in what you do AFTER you sleep with her.

I have got it down to an exact science. A series of actions and behaviors that practically guarantee she will not only see you again, but also be borderline obsessed with you...

Just have a natural behaviors that a person can learn from you in less than five minutes. Nothing fancy, no routines or lines...
 
Here's the REALITY of this situation.

The reality is some of the hottest and most intelligent women I have dated LOVED the excitement of getting physical really fast.

It's straight out of the movies, and very few guys can pull it off skillfully.

MYTH #2: You need to reassure the woman that you will see her again before sleeping with her.

A lot of guys try this... they imply that the women is "relationship material" or that he definitely wants to see her again.

Man... what a way to kill an intrigue right off the bat...

Guys do this and tend to come on wayyyy to strong. They appear too interested, too needy, to desperate to get a girlfriend.

But at the same time you should NEVER imply that it's a one night stand, or that you're just interested in bed.

This isn't very effective either...

MYTH #3: You have to be great in bed the first time you sleep with her.

Julian,  who is a good friend of mine, admitted that he is bad in bed and only lasts for about 3 minutes but converts girls like *CRAZY*.

Point here, he is NOT good in bed (his choice), and STILL gets women so crazy about him, they won't leave him alone.... (it just end up the women sitting there naked, watching him playing Gears of War on his Xbox360)

May be at this point you are thinking...

"THIS IS TOO ADVANCED, I STILL HAVE PROBLEMS PICKING UP AND SLEEPING WITH A WOMAN!"

I know that.

But listen. This is an important information that you're going to need soon.

And let's be honest - when you DO start sleeping with women - wouldn't you rather have the CHOICE to see them again or not?

That's what my point is.

Have you avoided having a conversation to a woman just
because she was talking to another guy?

Or maybe you fear of getting embarrass if you approached a
group of girls with one or two guys with them because you
ASSUMED that those guys were cooler than you.

Most guys shy away from approaching women who are with other
guys for a couple reasons.

They assume that the girl is "with" the guy, and assume he's
her boyfriend.

This isn't a real reason to not talk to a woman, especially
in a bar - it's a social setting where people meet other
people. Plus - she's not his "slave" - she's a human being,
not a piece of property, so she is free to talk to whomever
she chooses.

You will extremely look confident if you approach more often
a woman who is "with" a guy and this can draw out the guy's
jealous side, making him look weak and insecure.

The other reason points to a deep insecurity based on a
simple misconception that's why they avoid talking to woman
who is "with" a guy.

Guys assumed that the "other guy" is stronger, cooler, or
somehow more powerful than they are. Men tend to be
threatened by other men.

This exist in an ancient survival strategy that has been
passed through human minds.

The social hierarchy is very subtle, and mostly unconscious,
and it's hard to tell who the more "dominant" person is in
any given interaction. So when a male is confronted by
another male, he doesn't know how dominant the other guy is.

He doesn't know if he will be embarrassed verbally, or as
was probably common thousands of years ago, beaten up.

So it's smart to play it safe by assuming that the other guy
is a threat. Males who were too bold may have won a few
confrontations, but all it took was one loss to end up dead
or exiled from the tribe.

And then their genes were taken out of the "game" so to
speak.

So the guys who played it safe, and avoided confrontation
usually lived long enough to reproduce and survive.

The irony is that most of approach anxiety nowadays have the
basis on this hard-wired survival strategy - the false
assumptions of the guys will lead them to unnecessarily
avoid women.

The thing is, most times when you see a woman talking to
another guy in the bar or club, she's not WITH him.

Usually, they JUST MET!

For many instances I've approached a girl with a guy
thinking it was her boyfriend, then only to find out that he
was just a random dude who just approached her. Or he was
just a friend or relative.

I think of all the times I completely avoided talking to a
woman because I saw her with another guy. I regret having
missed so many opportunities. Which brings me to my first
point:

I SHOULDN'T ASSUME THEY ARE TOGETHER UNTIL I SEE A PHYSICAL
EVIDENCE. I DON'T KNOW WHAT HE MEANS TO THE GIRL.

Approach a woman so that you will know what they really are.
Just remember to be alert and respectful, because in the off
chance they are together, the guy may be the insecure
jealous type and start a physical confrontation.

So use your brain - just don't be stagnant in making a false
assumptions.

Another thing that I want to talk about is the idea that the
other guy can be more "dominant" than you are.

The alpha male during caveman days had a real power - he
knows where to get resources like food, and was physically
stronger, that he could beat up competitors. The concept of
the alpha male is completely obsolete.

But ask yourself if those same power are still existing
today. Every man with a source of income can survive on his
own - if you're reading this, you probably have an access to
your needs like food. You're all set.

Plus, its illegal to use the physical strength just to beat
people up. It is pretty much irrelevant to use in the modern
world.

You'll always end up losing if you attack another person
because the police always win.

You are LETTING RANDOM GUYS STOP YOU FOR NO REASON! if you
are thinking about it.

Just excuse my French, but who is HE to say who YOU talk
to???

It was annoying - remembering all the girls I missed out on
because I was scare about some DUDE. And I get mad knowing
that the other guys are dealing with some crap!

When you're on your deathbed, you are going to look back on
all the things you did and didn't do. How painful would it
be to say "I didn't meet that girl because I was scared of
another guy," or "there were so many beautiful women I
could've enjoyed, but I didn't even try because I saw them
TALKING to another guy."

I don't want you to be like that.

So let's understand it deeply. Seeing the other guy as more
dominant means you don't really understand dominance.

You see, you instantly consider yourself NOT dominant when
you're concerned with who is more dominant. There's a better
focus.

Dominant men don't think about who is dominant. To be
dominant, you must first THINK like a dominant man. So what
do dominant men think about? Whatever it is they are doing
or want.

So when you see another guy talking to a group of girls.
Focus on the girls instead of worrying who is the dominant
between the two of you.

It's proven to be a waste of time if I have to acknowledge
other guys. Out of 10 women, 9 of them doesn't even know the
guy - they just meet him.

Or if they do, he's a friend of ONE of the girls, and the
rest barely know him.

It's seldom for women to go out with a guy they are dating -
normally they will bring a guy that is more of a
protector/friend because a guy like that is more valuable
when they go out on the town.

And aside from that, if he IS with one of the girls, then it
will be a fair game because it means that he's NOT with the
other girls.

When you are concerned with who's the alpha male, you are by
definition NOT the alpha male. In fact, it's questionable
whether alpha males truly exist in the modern world.

Avoid some assumption, just get your focus in a USEFUL
place, and don't allow some random dude to stop you from
enjoying YOUR LIFE!

Does it ever feel like WORK meeting women?

And do you ever feel despite all your hard work you're not
even closer to your goal?

If you agreed to those questions, then you may continue
reading.

I'm not going to lie, the dating game can be quite
frustrating.

You are interested in a woman that has a boyfriend.

You think everything is going great with a girl and she
stops returning your calls.

Though of course we know that it is the man that exerts a
lot of moves in order to make things right and moving.

You must have the courage in the way you approach.

YOU have to keep the conversation going at first, YOU have
to escalate physically, YOU have to get HER number or rack
your brain to figure out a logistical way to take her home,
YOU have to plan the date.

Men are much higher than women when it comes to the
standards of behavior.

(Let's not started on that...let's just say women are
allowed to get away with sub-par behavior just because they
are "beautiful.")

That can be debilitating, especially if you don't have an
"extroverted" trait.

...I just had a client who often complained of "extroversion
fatigue."

I used to struggle with that too that's why I knew exactly
what he meant.

Before I began to teach myself pickup, I would go out, and
be mentally DRAINED after talking to three or four women.

What I do is to have a sit and rest!

I am working hard than I was in my full time job instead of
having some fun and relax in those situation. Now you see
how strange it is.

I would go home and be absolutely DEAD

... from SPEAKING TO WOMEN!

Does it make sense to you???

As a whole, there is a general dating fatigue. Having a
discouraging results, an emotional ups and downs with
regards to the hard work and effort that I make just to have
a girl to hang out with me or to sleep with me.

I feel I am working overtime just like a full time job!

When I first got in this game, I literally had to force
myself to go out and pickup ALL DAY for days on end. (I
admit, I was a nerd, and pushed it to the extreme.)

But what can I say, I was very eager to learn all this stuff
(and not to mention extremely hungers for results after
years of sensual frustration).

I am pushing myself just like an athletes that pushes
themselves to the gym

I was working muscles or to be more precise I was forming
NEW NEUROPATHWAYS, that I had never used before

If you can relate to any of this, then you are probably
working too hard in your interactions with women.

Here are the 3 reasons for this.

The first reason is may be new to you - being socially
proactive.

I remember the first time I started weight lifting, I don't
have an upper pectoral muscles - the muscle right at the top
of your chest just under your clavicle that make your chest
look big.

Actually I did, but they were so small and weak, it took a
good three weeks to even begin to feel them. Every time I
worked them out I was incredibly sore and could barely move
my arms.

Then I can now handle the big amounts of weight right after
I have reached the tripping point in the development of my
muscle. The mind is in that way too.

Developing your new neuro-pathways will take time. So with
the level of your skills, you need to push yourself harder
from day-to-day.

Thinking that meeting women requires a lot of hard work can
cause a social fatigue. And that is the second reason.

It's not really so much about "fatigue" but it's more on
having an overwhelmed feeling.

When you feel overwhelmed by something, it can frazzle your
mind, and lead to a sort of depression, or discouragement,
which may feel like exhaustion if you're not deeply aware.
It's like your body is saying "ugh, it's too much work. I
give up before I can even begin."

This will hold you back from DOING ANYTHING. I suffered from
this kind of feeling when I started putting a lot of my
theories on paper. I looked at my notes and felt like I was
looking at one of those huge, complex physics equations.

It was discouraging to think that I had to do almost all the
needed things just to get a good quality of women.

Lastly, you will feel socially exhausted for your dating and
mating game, when you spend a lot of effort and focus on
stuff in wrong situation and find out it was not helpful to
your pick-up.

99 percent of men gets it wrong when it comes to attracting
women. The thing is, the woman usually can't tell, because
most men after suffering from a few harsh rejections learn
to hide their inner "stuff."

But this doesn't negate the fact that when the average guy
is attracted to a woman, he spends his mental energy on
trying to impress her, or figure out if she likes him.

As what we have seen and heard in the media, from our
parents and friends - generally it lets us know that man's
role is to IMPRESS the woman and in return a woman will
sleep with you.

Ridiculous!

I get so mad when I see some commercial with a guy bumbling
around trying to impress some cute girl, and looking like a
fool while she giggles like she's better than him because
she's a girl.

Ok enough ranting...  the point is that most guys are
screwed when it comes to being in control of their dating
lives.

But everything will absolutely change if the guy will only
takes time to adjust the way his MIND works when it comes to
attraction.

You need to get the most out of your body and mind so that
it can lead you to the highest level of your interaction
with women and that's what's really attractive.

A MAN AT HIS BEST.

One Night Stands is the topic that I want to share with you today.

It wasn't until I had a couple solid pickups that I started to really understand how easy all this really could be.

Looking back, I realize now that those initial successes were the start of a major "bad belief overhaul."

I began to believe that women wanted me and wants to get in bed.

Even though I know that I am not that good looking like other men, I started to think that I was that too attractive and desirable to woman

The main goal, of about 75% of my students, is to sleep with as many women as possible.

While the others have the aim to find their someone special but I don't think these aim are mutually exclusive.

You see, if you're looking for one special girl, you're gonna have to meet a good amount of woman so you can make the best choice.

And if you don't know how to meet women, this can be a daunting task.

One of the common phase that every good pickup artist goes through when they gets started. Where he to learn to thinks of new ways and behavior and then start to meet and sleep with LOT OF WOMEN.

Just like a kid in a candy store, making a full advantage of his new powers!

There is a need of learning in order to dump out your old way and start with a new reality - that I am desirable that women can't resist to sleep with me.

You have to be really fast and have a natural sensual encounters, in order to get the success in sleeping with women though your new you.

I'm referring to a same day lays or popularly known as "ONS" One-Night Stand.

Having a one-night 'stands at-will' can seem just as out-of-reach as having a great girlfriend. So if you never had a one night stand, you might be considering about it.

Actually if you know what you are doing, it will be all easy.

The crappy thing is, a lot of guys make it WAY too hard on themselves, and never get those initial sexual experiences that help them to really feel like a "natural."

I know you want to get BETTER with woman and above of it to MASTER THE GAME. If not you will not read this, right?

Mastery of the game comes from within and it start right through your mindset and leads to a visible results that form New Beliefs in your mind.

These new beliefs become the foundation for your new reality, where you naturally attract women without even thinking about it.

First of all, you can't always get the hottest woman in the venue to go home with you for a one-night stand.

You can get a solid number from her, but its not a guarantee that you can take her home because whether or not a woman is open to going home with a guy, it varies widely in particular night.

However, in any bar, club, or even a day-time situation, there are LOTS of horny women who would be open to getting down with you that same day or night. You just have to know how to spot these women.

The things that I look in spotting them are in the way how they dressed, how much make-up they put on their face and other things that relates to how they look physically. Remember that there is a reason why women exert a lot of effort in order to look beautiful.

The general reason is that women wants an attention and be approach. Although this isn't always be the reason but a a lot of time it is the case.

I also look for women who are being loud and animated. They are subconsciously looking for attention from men.

Lastly, I look for women who are looking around the room more than the other girls in their group. A lot of times, you'll see groups of two or three women all standing around with blank expressions, scoping the room.

These women are obviously making themselves out there, waiting to be notice by men.

Just take these in mind, that when you approach you don't go into full-steam running your clever routines and cocky frame control stuff.  You have to take it easy.

Just be light, social, and let them know you are interested in meeting them. A simple "hey, you guys look great tonight. Special occasion?" is enough.

You should not openly discuss to the woman that you are looking to take her home and get her into bed. Because, if you talk about that, you're putting a woman to a point where is to agree to implicitly bang with you.

Instead you want to build sensual tension, as we discuss heavily in our workshops.

This is against her "rules" and will force her to keep you at a distance. You're also going to need logistical information, so that you can figure out how to get her back to your place when the time comes.

So before that thing happen, you have to remove some of your overt sensual intention and try not to let her know that you are trying to pick her up.

Just enjoy yourself while escalating appropriately and have a willingness to control the situation.

Although it may seem as counter intuitive, but this is how it works.

You have to believe that women wants to have sex and a lot of women in the place wants to have a fast getting laid down.

Some won't and some will, and that is why you need to know how to spot and get them.

You don't want to invest a bunch of time with the wrong girl, or worse, to pick the RIGHT girl, and then mess it up after a lengthy interaction.

It's not worth wasting your time for that.

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How do you let a woman know that the the things you are doing to her is the real you?
 
Or does she have any idea that after she sleeps with you all of what you said will be backed up?

Well, the answer to the that questions is Credibility.

90% of most guys that think they don't have enough value,  lacks credibility. In fact, most of everything they used to create value these days only serves to make a nasty woman-repelling player vibe.

(and anyone who's anyone KNOWS I don't even teach value. Not for a damn second!)

"Player vibe" is not actually a bad vibe, but a mistake in building and maintaining credibility.

One of the key components to sleeping with a woman quickly is able to create credibility.

Also another component is sexual tension.

And as a good student of pick-up, you know that some girls need sexual tension to sleep with you and the other half need credibility first. (You do know that, right?)

So let's go deeper with it:

There are three levels of credibility.

1.Safety
The most basic and fundamental level of credibility, you need to demonstrate SAFETY before a woman will be alone with you and sleep with you.

2.Commonality
You need to demonstrate commonality in order for a woman to continue sleeping with you, or have a relationship with you.

3.Direction
You need to show direction in order to get a woman to leave her current boyfriend or change her existing life plans to be with you.

SOCIAL PROGRAMMING

You have to understand that every person we meet is socially programmed in a different way. Even you yourself have your own social programming. We all do.

It's not really a bad thing. On the contrary, it's very useful.

Realize that although we understand a lot of a woman's behaviors come from her social programming, we can't expect her to realize that.

If men have evolved an instinct to try to sleep with as many women as possible, its opposite to women, they have evolved an instinct to choose guys who demonstrate a high chance of sticking around with her and able to raise children.

And this instinct is built by social programming.

A woman's programming is her reality and literally that programming is her world.

And credibility is about showing you understand her world.

Now here's a good example ->

Imagine you were comfortably sitting in a chair in your bedroom.

And then a guy came in. And he said he was cold. And wanted to turn up the heat. Then he told you he liked the couch in where you were sitting in. And asked if he could urinate in the corner.

You would feel pretty uncomfortable with him. You might even think he's crazy.

He's showing you that he's not seeing the same reality as you. He's "in his own world".

I bet you wouldn't trust a guy like that.

Because he has shown you that he doesn't understand your world, and doesn't respect your world - you probably wouldn't connect with him, or feel like giving him compliance.

This is how women feel when you don't demonstrate credibility.

If she thinks that it's a bad thing for a guy to kiss and tell (most women do) -> You should show her you ALSO believe it's bad for a guy to kiss and tell.

Having the same perceptions about the world as her will build your credibility dramatically.

You can think of the three levels in this manner:

Safety - It's safe to have you in her world.
Commonality - You see the same things in her world. (Similar perceptions, values, and goals)
Direction - You have the ability to rearrange and alter her world.

These are best demonstrated in order.

And you can get really good at this. At first, guys are usually good at meeting a certain type of a woman.

It's because he naturally understands a certain type of worldview.

But as you get good, you'll start to be able to match ANY woman's worldview.

The best way of doing this is by anticipating her thoughts and verbalizing her feelings or views about the world, as if they are your own.

The first thing for you to do is remembering things she's said in the past, and then repeating it after she has forgotten she's said anything.

Then you will get good at pacing her reality and leading. Sooner or later, it gets to the point where you can intuitively understand her reality. Then she will trust you to change it for her. You enter her world, and then start teaching her new things about HER world.

That's when you know you get this thing.

When someone comes along who understands a woman's reality so well, she doesn't just think he's perceptive and skilled, she just feels a connection.

She thinks "He's just like me!"

This is really the basic thing yet so many people mess it up.

But once you do it correctly you'll watch your game improve greatly.

This is the part III of the story telling technique which is very powerful and ties back into displaying your personality and bringing your characters to life.
 
What I will share with you will really helps paint the picture and get your audience more involved. This techniques is about adding TOUCH to your stories.
 
An example of this would be like "My friend and I were walking over there like this... (lock arm in arm)."
 
If you are using something like this arm and arm example, you would only do it for that short instance, not tell the rest of the story arm and arm. And remember, only hold whatever touch you are displaying for the appropriate part of the story.

An example I would use in my story is when describing his weirdness would be "I would be talking with some of my friends and he would come up from behind me, stick his arm around me like this (put arm on girls shoulder and pull her in, give her a little shake, showing exactly what he did to me).
 
In order for you not to look obvious is to continue telling your story while initiating the touch, and not looking at where you are touching or pausing and waiting for any form of reaction.

Another fun thing to add into your stories is subtle hints that raise your desirability.
 
These include mentioning other women in your life, having special social privileges, being the leader of your group, and doing things that make you stand out.
 
Most often I am mentioning other women in my stories. You can do this by changing the word "friend" to "girlfriend" or name dropping by saying "my friends Lisa and Sarah" anything along those lines.

These are all essentially tasteful ways to brag in your stories... without actually bragging. Now you don't need these but in some cases can add a special flare to your stories.
 
It just have to be subtle and never the subject of your story. They are just minor details.
 
To make them theme authentic, do not provide an explanation for them. If part of your story involves you hooking up with multiple people, don't provide an explanation for it, instead just keep talking, it's not the focus on the story and by not providing an explanation, it comes off as a perfectly natural thing that is no big deal.
 
Once you have thrown in all these fun storytelling tactics it time to give it the once over.
 
Eliminate all unnecessary content including all redundancies and make sure your story is moving along and does not drag out. That is the biggest problem people make, they drag their stories out too long about things that don't affect the overall story.
 
For now just aim for about 2 minutes stories.
 
How much you share all depends on how your storytelling skills develop. An expert storyteller could captivate the audience for 20 minutes. But for now, focus on getting 2-3 solid minutes of your audiences attention.
 
Remember to look for clues of people fading out so you know when to speed things up and get to the punch line.
 
Always make sure you are keeping eye contact, this will help hold the audiences attention.
 
Here is the FINAL revised version of my story.:
 
Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!"
 
Group: "blah blah"
 
Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at Club Voodoo, you ever been? (Check in point)...Cool, anyway I walk in with a group of my friend Lisa and some friends she brought along. There is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people.
 
Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" and he just has this annoying vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone just clearly does not belong and seems out of place... kind of like that guy (Put arm on person from audiences shoulder and point to someone else outside the audience)
 
So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito...with a really bad taste in clothing...like you have no idea how bad it was, I would be talking to some of Lisa's friends and he would come up, stick his head between us and wrap us both in his arms and give us a little shake like this...(Do exactly what he did on them) And the worst part is he had this nasty...thick breath....oh it was terrible.
 
(Random Story Telling Tip: Appeal to the senses, especially the smell, it is the least addressed and most memorable.) Anyway... my friends and I try to get away by going to the VIP floor and we have been drinking the free energy drinks all night and made a super tall pyramid out of cans.  (Illustrate structure with arms).
 
Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table... and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line)
 
Little did he know... that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened... it was full... so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!...................the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch!
 
(Create dramatic spill scene around your crotch, getting the girl to look there, although sneaky, creates lots of subtle sensual messages)
 
It looked like he wet his pants!
 
His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn't see him again... I don't know what the big deal is...I thought it was hilarious!
 
(Share a good laugh with your audience, initiate more touch if you so please, initiating touch during laughter is very powerful)
 
If we look back at the original example of...
 
"So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and I am going around making some new friends and having a good time. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don't want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home."
 
You can see the dramatic changes these steps can make to any story.
 
Before giving you a conclusion of this long newsletter....I want to leave you with a couple advanced story telling tips.
 
-If you are telling the same story, increase vocabulary in it, use powerful verbs and adjectives to bring the story to life.
 
-Always be painting a picture, if possible appeal to all the senses.
 
-Start your stories at the end. If you ever saw the movie Fight Club you will notice how you are caught up into the story right from the beginning because you are curious to see how Edward Norton's character got himself in such a dangerous situation. You can start your story at the end then build up to really captivate your audience.
 
-The more emotion you put into a story the better, the more emotion you show in a story, the more mistakes you can make because your emotion and commitment to the story covers all that up.
 
-Avoid pauses like "ummmm and ugghhh" everyone has a bad habit when they stumble in there stories.
 
-Do not memorize your stories. You don't want to sound like you are reading from a script, you want it to seem natural. It is possible to be too good at telling your stories and then it is almost like the listener is watching a scripted play. Just understand the concepts and events of your story, there should always be some slight differences when you tell your story. Practice telling it...but don't become a scripted narrator.
 
-Lastly and most important to sum things up....
 
Do not tell your stories AT your audience...tell your stories TO your audience.
 
Always make sure they are involved and as you are telling your story, keep your eyes open for cues in the interaction you do not always have time to look for.
 
Use these cues to find what points of your stories get certain reactions, and use them to move the story along. You pick up on different things if you are telling a story you know well, this is another way storytelling continues to improve your game.

Now, this is the "Part II" of the storytelling newsletter.

Just a recap in "Part I" we have talked about why a storytelling is important and how it can improve your game dramatically.

I know you are all excited to start using storytelling and understand why it is so powerful we are going to work on constructing your very own epics!

In "Part I" there were two things I asked of you. The first one was to create a list of 7-10 moments in your life worth sharing, and second was to write down 5 things about your identity that you want people to know about you.

We are going to start out working with these things.

First lets take out the 7-10 story. What you will do now is to select 5 solid ideas, eliminating those that you think may not seem to interesting to other people or ones that were "you kind of had to be there" stories.

Now that you got 5 solid ideas, reflect on these stories, which ones do you have the most emotional connection to you, which ones do you feel the most interested in sharing with other people and which ones do you think could captivate and relate to your audience. Then after that we are going to just focus on constructing 3 solid stories so you can go out and start using them immediately.

And of course I'm sure there were still some of you out there that listed less than 10 ideas or maybe around three, so I guess that makes your job easier.

For now, your main target with these stories are women, so focus on which ones you think a woman is more interested in hearing. (Any women can become interested in any story if delivered properly, but if you have a good story about you watching dirty videos and eating pizza, it may be better left for the guys)

Also don't hesitate to ask your friends about which story topics they fine more interesting to hear, to help narrow it down to 3 solid concepts.

As said before I will be doing this exercise along with you, however, critiquing all 3 of my stories will take too long so we are just going to use one of my story concepts and build it from the ground up through the techniques I show you.

I am going to try to discard all the information on storytelling that I know and jot this story down from scratch (This actually happened to me, so I figure this is a prime example)

"So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and as I am having a good time roaming around and making some new friends there's one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night. And he was a really annoying person that you just don't want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home."

Okay, pretty annoying story...I know, but we can turn this into something awesome.
First we need to understand the 3 components of a good story.

The first component, is "The Hook Question"

The object of the hook question is to make sure everyone in the group you are telling the story gets involved.

Hook question is use to captivate the group and it is the line you deliver to introduce your story.

Before you start using hook question in your story make sure that the attention of EVERYONE in the group is in you. If one person is not paying attention and they tune in halfway through your story, they are going to have no idea what is going and potentially pull the entire group away.

Make an eye contact and get a response or at least a nod from every member of the group before beginning your story.

There are two different types of hook questions.

---> An open ended hook question;  and

---> A yes or no hook question.

I feel open ended hook question are better because it gets your audience more involved with the story you are about to tell, but a yes or no one is good cause it gets you right into the story.

So a possible open ended hook question for my story would be "How do you deal with people who you just want to leave you alone?"

A possible yes or no hook question would be "Have you ever been to club voodoo?"
So let's add this to the story... (Find a hook question for your example stories as well)

For my story, I will be using the open ended hook questions and it goes like this:

Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just can't get them to leave you alone?!"

Group: "blah blah"

Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at club voodoo...(rest of story)

Next component is to demonstrate personality.

There are a number of ways of doing this but for now lets go to our list of 5 things that you want to convey in your identity. Try to fit as many into the story as you can.

My 5 things were:

 - I am a musician
 - I am a very social person
 - I have a high and fun energy
 - I have a good sense of humor
 - I am interested in video and photography

You may want to try at least 3 of your 5 things to fit into the story, but if its awkward and seems out of place then just get at least 1 or 2 in. You need one though, but the very manner you deliver the story may convey a lot about yourself.

Other ways to convey personality is to act out your characters. Bring them to life in your stories.

Another important aspect to expressing personality in your stories is by speeding up your voice during moments of excitement and slowing it down during more intense moments to create tension.

Speeding up, pauses, and slowing your voice down is hard for me to sow you through a newsletter, but when you recite your stories out loud you will gain a natural since of where each belongs and will improve through reactions with your audience.
You should always know how to build a tension to bring excitement to your audience so that they won't feeling a lack of resolution.

So now I am going to rewrite my story as it stands to convey my personality...

Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt (exaggerated can't to show frustration with the situation and convey more personality) get them to leave you alone?!"

Group: "blah blah"

Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at club voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way (social) and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time (fun) and meeting lots of cool new people (social).

Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" (putting finger quotes around it) and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo (Painting this scene gets them laughing and displays humor and some understand of social norms and fashion.)

So my friends and I trying to walk away from him but he just won't back off, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito..(pause)..with a really bad taste in clothing (humor)...you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away (act out slight jogging motion).

Eventually he finally goes away and we start to have a fun night again.

As you can see, the story starts to build up but it has no resolution, it just kind of ends.

So here is the last component of story.... "punch line". A punch line is often used for humor and ties up the story. Its biggest importance is to let the audience know it's over. It can be one line or much more...

To have a successful delivery of punch line to your story, you need to create a dramatic build up by slowing down your words and then once the comic relief or resolution comes, you speed the conversation back up.

The punch line can be a small extension of the story to bring further resolution to the issue. This is where you can get creative and give some lamer stories a much cooler ending.

The actual ending to my story involves the creepy guy going into the bathroom, some guy that was annoyed by him jokingly bumping into him while the creepy was using the urinal, and the creepy guy pissed on the front of his pants, got embarrassed and left.

Now, first off, it was kind of rude on that one guy's part and I don't want to associate myself with friends like that. Also...a guy pissing on himself is an odd thing to share during the initial interaction.

So I am going to do a little story morphing by combining a similar, less gross incident that happened that night.

Nothing wrong if you change some incidents in your story what matters is it can be  more entertaining...after all...it's a "STORY"

So the updated story with the new punch line now goes:

Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!"

Group: "blah blah"

Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at Club Voodoo and I walk in with a group of my friends and random people we met on the way and there is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people. Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" and he just has this vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito...with a really bad taste in clothing...you would think he could get the hint when we were practically jogging away. Anyway...my friends and I get away from him and are on the top floor and we make a super tall pyramid out of energy drink cans. (Illustrate structure with arms). Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table...and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line) Little did he know...that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened...it was full...so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!...................the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch! It looked like he wet his pants! His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn't see him again...I don't know what the big deal is...I thought it was hilarious! (Final punch line, they know the story is over)

You now have that three components to your stories and once you do it right way... plus got some great stuff on your hands. You will surely gonna have a great story.

HOWEVER....there is still a few more sprinkles that I want to add to your story and you will gonna use it someday.

These things are the secret little tips of successful storytelling.

The first and most important is creating check in points.

Check in points are mini questions you throw into your story throughout to make sure you have the audiences full attention. It gets them more involved.

Examples are "That ever happen to you?" "Don't you hate when that happens?" "You know what I mean?"

Just make sure they are not obvious and sounding like you are taking time out for them to go into detail about your check in point question.

Another good way to check in is to compare aspects of your story to the current situation you are in. ex. "Kind of like that over there" "Reminds me of her (point to person)."

You should at least have two check in points near the start and in the middle. If you are doing everything right, your audience will be captivated and waiting for the build up of the punch line so you won't need one near the end.

If you start to see someone looking away, throw one out to regain focus.

An example in a passage of my story would be:

"Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone is clearly just lost and not sure what he or she is doing....kind of like that guy over there (point to someone similar)."

For the check in points, You don't always need a full response, a nod will be fine simply showing that the audience have regain their focus to your story.

Today I will be sharing with you the tips on how to be a successful story teller and how to construct a powerful story that can hold the interest of not only women but anyone in your life. These tips when used properly, can make your desirability with women sky rocket.
But before anything else, I want to clear up a few myths when it comes to the matter of story telling.

Myth 1: Does my story needs to be true and should it be about about me?.

It's up to you whether its true or not what matter is on how you keep your conversation fun. Applying the right techniques in your story telling can keep the conversation moving.

Keeping your story fun, even if the women doesn't believe the story you are telling, can make them entertained and most likely run with new topics that have developed from your stories.

I'm not telling you to lie though, the most powerful stories are ones that are true and come from a place of emotion. However I think the biggest misconception is not whether the stories have to be true, but is more about whether or not they have to be about the story teller.

You can be so over the top with stories where the unbelievably becomes so fun that a woman can get involved and becomes part of a newly painted reality that you and the girl get to share and more importantly create together. (This becomes a key factor in "Role Playing" and by mastering storytelling, your creativity in "Role Play Conversations" raises but sadly, the subject of role playing will have to be saved for a later issue.)

The goal of story telling is to communicate to the listener about you. Surprisingly, it is easier to convey things about yourself by HOW you tell a story, not the actual content of it.

With the power of expressions, energy, and vivid language, you can convey to your listeners such things as, dominance, humor, interests, and over all personality.

In applying the proper techniques of a story, you should be able to repeat what you heard on the news but in such a fashion that directly makes you more interesting and displays your personality.

Myth 2: As you get better with women you become less dependent on story telling.

Now there is some truth to this myth in the sense that you do not go into interactions with pre-scripted stories as much as you may starting out. However, it is through the skills that storytelling develops that make you less dependent.

Instead of going into in interaction with a story you have made up or written down and rehearsed, you are able to share any subject in an interesting way that makes people listen.

This skill is enhanced by applying the arts of storytelling and is one of the key reasons learning and mastering storytelling is a great way to improve not only your skills with women, but your overall social skills.

What is storytelling and why is it important?

Storytelling is the direct means of communication when highlighting important parts of your life to the listener. Not only through context, but through delivery.

Storytelling plays a very important part in getting to know someone and it creates so many other subject matters to talk about and that a story is almost always followed by another story.

If you are familiar with "The Canterbury Tales" by Geoffrey Chaucer, you will see how each story is molded by the one told before it and by who told the story. (Don't worry; your stories don't have to have a rhyme scheme during the interaction like many of Chaucer's do)

There are many reasons why storytelling is important and if you are not currently utilizing storytelling then consider these following facts:

*Storytelling is a great way to save dying conversations

This is one of the most common problems that I see with many guys. They begin with great interaction and, then the conversation starts to die then there is that awkward silence. This is a great time to bust out a story from your arsenal and revive the interaction.

You will have a more approach of confidence if you know you are armed with a story when entering an interaction.

Running out of things to say can make a conversation die and that is why there are people who are afraid to start and enter to an interactions. But by developing a great story or two and keeping them in your back pocket for when you need them creates a great since of confidence during the initial approach and can really help limit the anxiety that one gets when approaching a beautiful women. You are guaranteed that the interaction will last at least the length of your story.

*Storytelling develops stronger social skills

This is one of the biggest reasons that I like to make sure everyone masters storytelling. Through storytelling you learn to capture the entire attention of the group. Also you directly convey your personality and it gets you accustomed to doing so. The skills that are developed from strong storytelling directly carry over into your social personality that make all conversation with you more exciting and vivid. The expressiveness you show in stories ties into your future interactions and directly improves your social personality.

*Storytelling is a great way to display dominance

If you are telling a story the right way, all eyes are on you, you are the center of attention, and everyone lingers off your next word. Holding the attention of the group through storytelling puts you in a dominant frame of you being the leader of the interaction and everyone else being the listener, waiting to see where you take the group next.

What you convey through your stories is how you will be remembered.

Unlike most things you say during an interaction, a good story is unforgettable. How many times have you had someone tell you about some crazy story that one of their friends told them? Stories have been passed down for ages; it is an old custom and still exists till this day. The girl should be able to look back on the interaction and be like "Oh yeah, that was the guy who (did whatever interesting activity that relates to you)."

*You can convey things through storytelling that you normally could not say.

There may be some interesting details of your life that said outside the context of a story may come off as bragging. But in a story, these little details are never the subject of the story thus they remain subtle but are powerful when displaying aspects of your identity.

Now that you have an idea of why storytelling is so effective and what you should be aiming for when telling a story we are going to work on creating your very own powerful stories that cannot be ignored. All this will be covered in Part II of this newsletter, but there is an exercise I want you to do right now so you can directly apply all the tips and tactics to create an amazing story.

Exercise 1: Write down seven to ten moments in your life that you feel have changed or defined who you are..

If you have a funny story or  humorous event that occurs in your life then you can feel free to include that. But even if the story does not seem major, just entertaining, the fact that you can remember it means it has a bigger effect than you realize.

This can be happy, fun, or even sad (not depressing) but we do learn through negative experiences. We will eventually cut these down to just a couple stories in Part II but for now I just want you to get into the habit of taking note of interesting experiences in your life.

Ideas: Vacations, Life/Death Experiences, an unforgettable concert or sporting event, a moment you succeeded, something funny that happened to you or a friend.

Now I know that there are going to be people that say they have no interesting stories. This is just not the truth; everyone has something interesting that has shaped who they are. Do not be modest; even if it's a silly story write it down. You can't be afraid to share a story, sometimes they are hard to think of and if you really can't think of a past story, starting paying more attention to your every day life. And if you still can’t think of one then go take a vacation, you will return with hundreds of them.

So many things happen in one day that people don't even think would be a story. But every past event being told is a story. There is no excuse not to have one.

Exercise Two: Write down at least 5 things that you would like people to know about you.

This is conveying your your personality. Think of the things that you would like others to know about you. These are the things that directly relate to your personality and make you who you are. Don't be surprised if the things that you write will directly related in some of the stories you wrote down in exercise one.

Ideas: Hobbies, Sports you play, instruments you play, your job, your goals, your skills and achievements.

Now save that list for we will be using it in Part II of this newsletter, to create some super powerful stories that you can always rely on. Also I will further go into the skills of storytelling and how to use them to make every story and conversation more interesting.

I am going to do this very exercise along with you guys so you will get to see my story end product as well.

Watch out for the next newsletter and get ready for the next level of storytelling.

How do you let your woman know that the vibe you're putting off in the beginning is the real you?

After spending a night and sleeping with her, how do you let her know that all of what you said will be backed up?

These questions have the same answer. Through "Credibility".

Many guys think they don't have enough value, 90% of their problem is they lack credibility. In fact, most of the style they used these days only serves to make a nasty woman-repelling player vibe.

"Player vibe" is not actually a bad vibe, but a mistake in building and maintaining credibility.

Creating credibility is one of the key components to sleeping with a girl quickly.

Other helpful component is sexual tension.

And as a good student of pick-up, you know that some women need sexual tension to sleep with you and the other half need credibility first. (You do know that, right?)

So let's get down to it:

There are three levels of credibility.

1. Safety

2. Commonality

3. Direction

A WORD ABOUT SOCIAL PROGRAMMING ->

You have realize that every person you meet is socially programmed in a different way. Even you have social programming. We all do.

It's not necessarily a bad thing. On the contrary, it's very useful.

Realize that although we understand a lot of a woman's behaviors come from her social programming, we can't expect her to realize that.

While men have evolved an instinct to try to sleep with as many women as possible, women have evolved an instinct to choose guys who demonstrate a high chance of sticking around to raise children.

And this instinct is reinforced by social programming.

Her programming is her reality. Her programming is literally her world.

And credibility is about showing you understand her world.

You can think of the three levels in this way:

Safety: The most basic and fundamental level of credibility, you need to demonstrate SAFETY before a woman will be alone with you and sleep with you. It's safe to have you in her world.

Commonality: You need to demonstrate commonality in order for a woman to continue sleeping with you, or have a relationship with you. You see the same things in her world. (Similar perceptions, values, and goals)

Direction: You need to show direction in order to get a woman to leave her current boyfriend or change her existing life plans to be with you. You have the ability to rearrange and alter her world.

HERE'S AN EXAMPLE ->

Think about if you were in your bedroom. Comfortably sitting in a chair.

And then a guy came in. And he said he was cold and wanted to turn up the heat. Then he asked you if you could vacate the chair where you are setting. And asked if he could urinate in the corner of your room.

Isn't it totally annoying? Of course it is. I bet you wouldn't trust a guy like that. You might even think "hey are crazy!".

He's showing you that he's not seeing the same reality as you. He's "in his own world". He doesn't understand and respect your world - you probably wouldn't connect with a guy like him or feel like giving him compliance.

This is how women feel when you don't demonstrate credibility.

If she thinks that it's a bad thing for people to kiss and tell (and most women do) -> You should show her you ALSO believe it's bad for people to kiss and tell.

The fact that you have the same perceptions about the world as her will build your credibility immensely.

These are best demonstrated in order.

And you can get really good at this. At first, guys are usually good at meeting a certain kind of woman.

It's because he naturally understands a certain type of worldview.

But as you move on and learned, you'll start to be able to match ANY woman's worldview.

The best way of doing this is by anticipating your woman's thoughts and verbalizing her feelings or views about the world, as if they are your own.

At first you will just be remembering things she's said in the past, and then repeating it after she's forgotten what she previously told you.

Then you will get good at pacing her reality and leading. Eventually it gets to the point where you can intuitively understand her reality. Then she will trust you to change it for her. You enter her world, and then start teaching her new things about HER world.

That's when you know you get this thing.

When someone comes along who understands a woman's reality so well, she doesn't just think he's perceptive and skilled, she just feels a connection.

She thinks "He's just like me!"

This is really the easiest thing in the world. Yet so many people mess it up.

But once you get to this things, believe me your game will improve dramatically.