(continued from part 1)

I have tried peacocking myself when I heard that other guys
were doing it. I did this maybe a couple times, just to see
if it worked.

I felt ridiculous when I went out and was totally
incongruent with my personality.

Women pay attention to fashion and like a well-dressed man,
as we all know.

I noticed that it was in my workout clothes or something
really basic - like jeans and a tanktop that some of my best
pickups occurred.

At the same time, women definitely did not respond well to
those muscled-up guys wearing revealing spandex, or
super-tight shirts at the club.

This got me thinking...maybe it's not how much the clothes
cost, or how flashy they are...

I guess there is something else going on.

Actually, there are two things going on, and you must
manage, or balance these two things.

The first thing is, never seek approval from women. You are
totally toast, if a woman can tell you that you are trying
to impress her or make her like you.

So if you come like you got dressed with a purpose of
getting women's attention, they'll see you coming a mile a
way and put up their defenses.

You shouldn't have to look like a pick up artist.

It's better to dress reasonably, and not put too much
thought into it.

However, you don't want to look sloppy. You want to present
yourself in the best way you can.

This comes back to self-expression.

You now have sense what kind of guy you are, what your
"scene" is, what you think is cool.

Never change that.

Instead, develop it, with these simple tweaks.

Wear colors that suites to your skin tone and hair color.
This isn't rocket science. You can look online or go to n
upscale men's clothing store, and ask someone about this.

Next is to make sure that your clothes are clean, wrinkle
free and reasonably updated.  A woman will not worry about
bringing you around her friends.

Most of all, be sure that your clothes fits well, they
BRING OUT YOUR MASCULINE PHYSIQUE.

Wear shirts that narrow your waist, and square your
shoulders.

Wear pants that make your legs look long and thin.

Put on a shoes that make your feet look big and
well-formed.

Groom yourself - nose, neck, and ear hairs. Get a decent
haircut. Shave, or don't, but figure out what looks best and
take it all the way.

One other piece...

Accessories should adhere off you loosely, and have a look
of a small decoration that says, "yeah, I can fuck."

Make out for your intuition with this one. I don't want to
say too much because that's a whole other topic.

I am NOT the most fashionable guy in the world.

Usually it is my girlfriend who pick the clothes for me - not for my benefit...

... but so that she doesn't feel embarrassed when we go out in public together!

If I were the one to pick my clothes, I'd rather pick the sweats and t-shirt, coupled with my old worn sneakers. I mean, I think fashion is silly.

I can definitely appreciate the artistic aspect of fashion design and style. When you look at a really well dressed woman, her outfit is like a work of art, and I dig that.

I kinda lose respect when a guy is "too stylish."

Don't get me wrong, a man should present himself like he means to be taken seriously. A nice suit, good quality, well-fitting clothes are a fundamental part of masculine expression.

But some men take it too far.

Case in point, the obsession with "peacocking" in the pickup Community for the past several years.

When I hear this term it makes me cringe.

YOU ARE NOT A PEACOCK.

Let me explain what is "peacocking," in case you're not familiar.

There was an emergence of routine-based "game" a while ago that rely heavily on superficial techniques, status games, and over-analysis of social interactions.

This always gone in the opposite direction and I never saw the value of it.

Major reason is I saw how pretending to be someone other than yourself, and it JUST FELT WRONG saying the routines and joke that the other guys came up with.

On top of that, the PRIMARY FOCUS of all that strategizing and game-playing was to covertly get approval from women, while making them feel insecure so they'd think you were cooler than them.

Think about the layers of bullshit in that approach to dating. Not only are you faking your personality because you

a) look for approval (as if girls were an authority on what makes man a man)

b) hide the truth that you're looking for approval

c) play games with women so that they feel insecure and try to seek your approval

YUCK

To dress up in a really loud, ostentatious way so that women would "notice" you and want to talk to you is a kind of "peacock,". And "peacock" is one of the main techniques in approaching women.

Wearing a nice watch, or a necklace isn't a bad thing because some have personal meaning.

But don't do it to make women like you.

I'm pretty sure a lot of men has seen this approach on TV shows, straining to make sense out of this hare-brained "technique."

It's sad to say that some students of other pickup schools that I've encountered,  were not only nervous, misdirected, clumsy, they looked RETARDED.

So I want to make a direct proof when it comes to fashion and approaching women.

There are only a handful of things you need to pay attention to when it comes to your appearance.

After you get this stuff handled, you should put it out of your mind, and not wait for women to notice you before you TAKE ACTION.

Before we move on, I have a secret that has to reveal.

(Continued in Part 2)

Have you ever been in a situation with a girl, and she asked you if you were reliable, honest or had a good relationship with your family?

Do you remember feeling motivated to answer in a way to IMPRESS HER?

-or-

Have you ever been with a girl, and she talked about how she LOVED when her boyfriend did something very special ?

Do you remember feeling motivation to perhaps DO THE SAME EXACT THING?

Of course... we've all been there.

What's important there is not the outcome in those situations, but only to be AWARE of the fact that you were EMOTIONALLY COMPELLED to behave in a certain way...

Whether the girl knew it or not (most likely, she DIDN'T) she was SHAPING you.

Now don't get me wrong, this isn't necessarily a bad thing...

People do it to each other all the time.

But most of the time, you are encouraging a woman to behave in a way that is NOT aligned with your desired outcome.

And that's what we want to change STARTING RIGHT NOW. ---  SHAPING the behavior of your woman.

Shaping includes a number of tools that are used to set a STRONG precedent of behavior in a woman.

There are a number of different ways you can start to apply shaping in your interactions with women.

And I've split them up into 5 different categories.

This is a HUGE topic, and I could literally teach an entire seminar on shaping ALONE. But right now I just want to get the seeds planted in your mind so that you can begin to grasp the higher level ideas, and start to incorporate them into your interactions.

So let's look at the five different categories of shaping.

1. Screening questions.

These are questions specifically designed to:

A) Get a woman to answer a specific way and
B) Start to behave in a manner more congruent with how she just answered you.

There are many types of screening questions, and above all you should use them in the right context.

For example, you wouldn't start a conversation with a woman with the question "Do you consider yourself to be independent?"... but it might come later on.

Screening questions are by far the least subtle and most OVERT out of all the shaping techniques.

They are easiest to employ RIGHT away, but because they cause a sharp emotional response, they may seem transparent and obvious to the woman.

2. You should display that you value certain behaviors or personality traits.

This is very similar to screening questions, except this time you are making a statement.

It's a little less obvious, but it is no where near as subtle as the remaining 3 techniques.

Instead of saying something like "What was the most spontaneous thing you've ever done?" (which is a screening question) You might say something like "Spontaneity is really important to me. It not only keeps things fresh and exciting, but also reminds me of our incredible freedom in life."

Because you are JUSTIFYING your statement with a truism (it's hard to argue that spontaneity keeps things fresh and exciting), the girl cannot disagree and she will be motivated to agree that spontaneity is important.

And because she's committed to saying spontaneity is important, she will now behave in a way CONSISTENT with that.

3. Set a strong precedent through storytelling.

Now we're getting warmer.

This concept, along with the next two, are VERY devious. Devious, in in the sense that women use them ALL THE TIME.

It's funny actually - my sister recently sat in on a recent DiClassified Drills workshop in NYC and I was surprised to discover that she not only agreed with the effectiveness of my techniques, but also - had already used many of them NATURALLY!

Of course this makes sense, seeing that many of my BEST techniques have been stolen DIRECTLY from the girl I know who have the VERY BEST game.

The idea in this concept is that you will tell a story that DEMONSTRATES what standards you expect, so that the girl can live up to them.

For example, you could say to a girl, very early in the interaction something like:

"One thing that is great about my friend Sarah, is that she is extremely thoughtful. Last night I mentioned that I was thinking of going shopping for a few new shirts, and not two hours later she dropped off this month's copy of GQ magazine on her way to the gym. Only problem now is, I have TOO MANY new ideas for a new outfit."

The beauty of that is, it doesn't even have to be true!

(I'm not going to make a moral decision for you here, I'm sure that you're more than capable. But for the record, these techniques have the exact same effect on a woman whether they are true or not)

4. Pointing out a desired personality trait while eliminating the undesirable.

This is classic shaping, and can be used freely to amplify existing behaviors and personality traits.

The idea is that - if you see a girl doing something (for example, drinking like CRAZY while out in a bar) you can comment on this in the following way.

Taking this single behavior - drinking like crazy, there are different components to it, some good, some bad.

Let's say you like the free-spirited aspect of  it, but you don't like the fact that she may not have a lot of self control...

You could say:

"Wow, you're so much fun! and so-free spirited. It's cool you do things you really want to do, and don't rely for others for direction. You follow your OWN desires."

By pointing out behaviors, you are in fact REWARDING them and AMPLIFYING that same behavior
in the future.

By selecting the ASPECT of her behaviors you like, and calling attention to them, you are SHAPING her future behavior.

(By the way, the above example is useful when going for a same-night-lay with a girl. You tell her she makes her own decisions and she'll be less likely to listen to her friends when they suggest that she shouldn't go home with you. Sneaky, but also KILLER in the field)

5. Reward calibration i.e. giving a woman cues as to how to perceive you based on the nature of the way you reward her 'good' behavior. This is highly advanced, and I am far beyond the scope of this newsletter.

Just understand that if you have determined what you will acknowledge as "good" behavior from a woman, it is to your benefit to REWARD her with something you want her to WORK for or CHASE AFTER.

Hint: This can be either affection, physical intimacy or sex, but NEVER a material or monetary. Violating this rule is the surest way to CREATE a gold digger!

YES. Gold diggers are not born gold diggers. They are CREATED on a case by case basis by the men in their lives. See a girl as a gold digger, and for sure she will be like that.

Be nice, and use these concepts with care.

Have you seen Mystery's the Pick Up Artist aired on VH1? I've seen that episode and wanted to share with you guys my predictions.

What I liked:

1. The Students. Generally, I love the pick-up students because they're always so eager to learn, share a common interest with me, and so grateful for even the small of improvement they make. Students are hands down the #1 reason why I do what I do.

2. Ridiculous Outfits of Mystery. No one can peacock like mystery, hands down. And the shows budget really allows for some fancy stuff. I dig it. Peacocking that hard is actually quite a challenge. Don't believe me? Go to your local lair and look at all the guys who try it and get it wrong. It's a  trainwreck.

3. The Challenges. It was fun, entertaining and creative. Winner of one contest gets to walk around with a cute puppy in the next. Hillarious.

What I didn't like:

Mystery is so attached to his structured method that he has not anymore aware why there some of his students fail... He got a blind spot on seeing that. "Yeah he should have used a false time constraint". How about his lame body language, complete lack of masculine vibe and messed up compliance ratios?

Isn't it tiring using a 4 year old material like a non-sensual conversation that goes NOWHERE! Yeah you bet! Sure you can get the girl to answer your question, but I don't see a PROGRESS with it. Instead of teaching the guys memorizing routines and lines, why not make them powerful, masculine and effective?

J-Dog's hair. I don't think I need to go into this. Looks like the poor dude passed out on a park bench in the middle of a graffiti contest. While there were certainly things about this show that bug the working pick up artist in me, I have to hand it to Mystery and VH1 for presenting the community in a good light to a mainstream audience.

Out of the four dudes left, here's some predictions:

Alvaro: This guy COULD become a master pua, but not in a few weeks, and not under Mystery's tuleage. He's got that "inner flame" that drives him to excel at different things, but he's going to need to really work to get consistent, and kill his approach anxiety and fear. He's still got the brakes on. The minute he gets past that, his game will explode.

Brady: Tall, good looking, fast learner. He's chill, makes steady progress. His use of corny material, and constant second guessing of himself is what's holding himself back. If he just chills out and acts NORMAL he'll be on fire. Again though, like joe, will probably become complacent at a certain level.

Joe: I think he has got the serious potential in the show. He got the attitude down, but he's the type that will get a certain level of success and become complacent. He'll get a girlfriend and develop his social circle and work off that. Not TRUE master pua material. I just don't see the kind of passion/drive that would carry him to Master PUAdom. He may do well on the show, however, just due to the lack of competition.

Pradeep: He could be a master pua, but he has to seriously increase his sexuality appeal. He's still in the friend zone. Doesn't matter if he got that chick's number on the show because that was FRIENDLY number close. He's interesting but... too interesting. It's giving the woman something to be attracted to, but those things are too exterior to get that deep physical attraction that a pua needs to do fast pulls, sensual selection switching, multiple relationship stuff, etc...

Overall, the show is super entertaining and I'll definitely be trying to catch another episode if I can.

When I started to get good, and could escalate quickly with any girl, I remember those girls I slept with but couldn't keep around.

And that is quite depressing.

So many women had the potential to be great girlfriends.

But I had my head up my ass.

...maybe that's a little rude.

But either way it comes down to TWO distinct problems:

First, I was trying to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I've never fully recovered. But I've stopped trying to recover. And that's what's made me move past this "proving myself" thing.

I've accepted who I am.

Sure, I like video games and comic books.

But...

Do you think women have cooler interests?

Is shopping, getting drunk and Myspace are cooler than what I'm into?

It's all are the same.

What it really need is self-acceptance.

If you don't accept yourself, women won't accept you also.

Can you picture out a woman wanting to be your girlfriend and you don't like yourself?

She will HATE to be with you and not wanting to be around with you.

Because if you don't like yourself, you can't really like her. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?

It may sound easy, but self-acceptance is hard to do. How many times have you hear these from people "I don't care what anyone thinks of me!"

Based on my experience, almost all DON'T ACCEPT themselves completely.

And I'm not excepted from them.

How you accept yourself is how women find you attractive, and people likes to be around you.

It may be hard to completely accept yourself. There is an old beliefs creep in and saying you are not enough, that you must be more than yourself now.

But the degree to which you eliminate these thoughts is the degree to which your game becomes better.

Because the real game is about yourself and not doubting about yourself. And the game doesn't end after your opener, after a few dates, after "making love." It never ends that way.

Because it is you.

You are not divided from your game.

The "game" is the degree to which you can express who you really are. Your game IS YOU.

Maybe you think "But I'm nervous and insecure and awkward."  I don't agree. That's not you.

That is the vague you.

That is you trying to come out, but your ego, your old mental habits stop you from expressing what you really want to express.

Before I get too deep into that, I want to move on to the second reason why I couldn't keep women around after I slept with them.

I am not aware of shaping.

And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don't know what you want, you can't shape. And knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance.

In fact, what applied to others is self-acceptance. You know what you like, and you encourage girls to be that for you.

You see, women are very flexible. They have many sides that they can reveal to a man. Men usually implicitly tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than the man.

But it's not the woman's fault. She's just doing what she's told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.

So if you come to a woman and treat her like she's on a pedestal, she will act accordingly.

If you approach a woman and treat her like she's lucky that you approached her, she will feel that way.

Same through after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.

This was tackled deeper in our workshop. I've developed a lot of things to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.

Women are different from each other. Like for instance, I may want a girl to be just a partner in bed. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what you want.

I used to remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I have.

And how frustrating it was to not see those women again using all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist.

But once I began to accept myself and figure out what I wanted, it all came together.

The Attraction Code is all about figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the women you want to meet, sleep with, and date.

The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE if you are struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine.

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Dating can be your best friend.

...OR your big enemy.

A lot of time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.

Then there goes a common quote,  "He thinks with his... You know."

Well it can be hard to NOT think that way if you aren't physically satisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We make our actions to achieve things and influence the world in a positive way.

I've personally faced one of the biggest challenges and it is balancing the two - my carnal obsession and achieving my goals.

When you are single, dating can consume a lot of time. Women will suck away at your time if you don't know what you're doing.

Before you know it, you are spending hours in the park, feeding the birds and cuddling...now

there's nothing wrong with spending quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU DON'T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, likewise to women.

In fact, it's a woman's NATURE to get the man's time - it's her way of getting you to invest in her. If she gets pregnant there's a lesser chance of you leaving her (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, most men want to give their time to women. By nature men are "givers."

They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.

Guys have also a urges that can completely take over your thinking.

Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most of your life, your time.

I want you take a moment and ask this to yourself, "WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?"

Now I know it wasn't about "money," or "control over my life," or "lots of my free time."

It was probably something like "good feelings, sexual pleasure, relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc."

I think men have problems with how they use their time with women in two ways.

First, they think that the gifts they REALLY want to give aren't that valuable, so they

overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a woman.

Second, men think that they are "getting" something valuable when a girl spends time with them.

Guys was brainwash by the society to believe that women are a prize to attain, and that there's some inherent value in a pretty face.

It's not TRUE!

The best thing is to see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN'T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!

Now it is really hard to break out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you've been doing them for years.

Young men are taught that their urges is crude and silly, and that it is just a favor
that women ALLOWS them to mate with them.

There's a syndrome that I call a "doofus dad" syndromeThere's another societal factor going on. In almost every TV commercial and sitcom, the "dad" or "boyfriend" or "husband" is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the mom/daughter/girlfriend/wife has to use her superior intelligence to fix the situation.

This leads to the perception that women are "better," and thus, their time is more valuable than yours.

If your time is not so valuable, then you will feel obligated to give her LOTS OF IT.

But here's the thing - you won't be present for most of that time, if you are giving a
woman too much time. You will be distracted, resentful, you will give her your "half-assed" attention.

I just realize this after analyzing lots of dates I went on women.

After that I started to give my FULL ATTENTION to women even though I'm only giving a smaller amounts of my time.

Aside from making our time better, this creates a VAST ATTRACTION because I left women craving more.

Now my girlfriends can't get enough of me - in fact, I don't GIVE THEM "enough."

Ask you know, "enough" would mean, "overexposure" to me, and women can't be
pulled to what they already have.

The proper way to manage your time is by being HONEST. And I don't recommend you to play games with women and pretend to be busy or whatever.

No need of games, just be real with the girl - and don't spend more time that you want.

Enjoy whatever free time you have with women but still with focus on your personal goals.

Be the man on the go.

Now in a short amount of time it requires that  you are able to meet a lot of women, which I'll have to cover in another newsletter.

It's not good to see that men waste their lives chasing and "putting up with" girls, and
then they are left out ALONE.

Remember that women aren't property that you can keep or somehow bring with you when you die.

It doesn't mean that you can "keep" the women if you invest all your time with her.

One more thing here - if you start being honest with the amount of time you are willing give to a woman, you may feel GUILTY.

It's either a girl will try to make you feel guilty, or you will feel it on your own. This is ok, it just means you have a weak focus. If you are following your true ways, it will usually from the social norm.

If you are in the habit of adopting the values  that others try to impose onto you, you will probably experience some tension, guilt, discomfort, even loneliness at first.

That's why I set and develop the Attraction Code. It's all about self-control, finding true path, and letting the real 'you' emerge from within.

And there's no need for us to impose our goals onto you. Given the proper guidance, I know you are able to do that for yourself.


Vin

If you are interested in meeting, attracting and keeping a "10", then you should read this letter.

But first off, let go waaay back...

It was in my high school, that there was a girl in my class who was seems so perfect.

She was intelligent, cool, and so beautiful that it was hard to look at her (and yet I couldn't stop my eyes looking)...

She was one of the popular kids in school but was so nice and friendly to everyone.

Occasionally we talked and as I look back I realize that we were flirting (I was so stupid to realize at that time).

I badly wanted to ask her to a senior prom but I chickened out at the last minute.

I realized after some few years that the girl had a crushed on me all the senior year.

I have talked to lot of men and this seems a common experience to them. they missed an opportunity to meet this ONE SPECIAL WOMAN who you crushed on from afar, or the girl had broke their heart...

Ah, the unreachable "10," a perfect woman that every men dream but seems hard to attain.

I have a lot to say about the concept of "10's," In deeper sense they are another "breed" of women, but it is on the way they think that makes them so.

Understanding the reality of the extremely beautiful women and understanding your own fascination for a perfect women will help you resolve this conundrum, and might even help you in finding your "perfect girl."

First of all, "10" is just a myth. No human being can be considered as perfect. You CANNOT say that a woman who looks prettier than the women is more "valuable".

The woman that is perfect for you is the one who can turns you on and have a great chemistry with you. That is the only true "10".

The world is full of 10's, you just need to have the skills and ability to approach a lot of women and make an options for yourself.

One recipe for your failure is if you treat a woman differently than other women just because she is prettier than the others.

Why?

Because almost all men do that.

The girl knows what you are about and she sees you as a shallow guy.

But there certainly a type of women that seems to have an another "level" beauty than the rest. These women get treated much differently than other women.

You need to understand this so that you will know how to treat these types of women.

As what I've said,  you shouldn't treat women "differently."

Let me explain it.

You shouldn't treat a woman BETTER than the other women. But there are things that you need to know.

First, she don't like a guy that chases her for her looks alone.

A woman wants to be appreciated for her personality above anything else.

Now for the sake of yours, I''ll be giving you a heads up.

There are two types of "10's."

The high self-esteem, and the low self-esteem.

The common type is the low self-esteem 10's. The women that belongs to this group are used to being wanted for their looks and they know that they didn't EARN an attention, so they have a guilt complex.

In fact, they are in complete dumbasses or most probably their lives have been coasted.

It may sounds not good  but I call it like it is.

These women take away their validation will make them flip out and do anything to get it back. They also respond to jerk-behavior.

Anything.

(Aside from it, these women usually suck in bed and when you get involved with them, they are in total head cases.)

On the other hand, the high self-esteem 10's women have had a taste of elite- they know early from the start that high levels of society were attainable to them, and they work hard to be successful, intelligent, and make the most of their lives.

These women are motivated to put an extra effort because they know that they are just a little closer to a great life than everyone else.

Usually HSE 10's are intellegent, have good attitudes, have a direction in life and have lots of interests beyond being clubbing.

Actually, most of beautiful women I've dated didn't even go to the club. They like to spend their evenings being with their families, reading, or having a nice dinner with friends (or studying if they were in college).

One of the interesting thing about this types of women are that they are single for long periods of time while in-between boyfriends. Why?

The women here have a high standards for themselves, and this makes most guys either too intimidated to approached and ask them out, or act too needy and pathetic around them, it's seldom they meet another man who is at the same level with them.

But here's the good news. You will find these women the easiest to attract when you understand The Attraction Code.

The Attraction Code is about being a "male 10," the best man you can be.

You will notice an interesting thing if you start to apply the Attraction Code.

There is an Auto-Rejection Mechanism that I call where some women will try to protect themselves from being rejected by you, by rejecting YOU first. This is where you'll get odd responses from less attractive women - they will occasionally be rude to you because they know they're not on your level.

But the most attractive, cool women will respond much differently... you'll be surprised to see the most beautiful women warm right up to you as soon as you approach - whether on the street or in the bar - because they can see that you are on their "level."

The girl will thinks "finally, a guy who can hang with me; he's confident and treats me like a real person. And he's the only guy who's actually tried to talk to me today, instead of whistling from his car."

The Attraction Code is meant for these kinds of women. And of course you'll have plenty of "adventures" to enjoy with all kinds of women, but this is about having the option of dating the hottest, highest quality women.

There are bunch of 10's out there waiting for you.

Don't spend another year missing something that you could've been enjoying right now.

Vin

There are guys that the first thing they do when they meet with woman is show her that they understand GAME.

They'll start talking about evolution, alpha males, how women will always cheat on their boyfriends, how they know that women are more intimate than men etc.

From now on, consider that as a nonsense as "The Talk of Death".

Let me explain why, and I will give you a very counter-intuitive idea of what to do instead.

The kind of things I've learned in pick-up generally will make your conversation topics very poor to women. Especially hot ones.

It might work with the anthropologist grad student, but to the woman that any man in his right mind would be attracted to, I don't think so.

There are a few major things wrong with this strategy:
(BTW - if you do happen to run with a woman that loves this kind of stuff, by all means talk about it, I'm just saying it should not be used as an ATTRACTION strategy for the majority of female population)

1. It puts a woman on the defensive. It's exactly like one country revealing it's battle plans to another country that it is at war with.

It shows that you are "thinking too much" about the dynamic, which not only is a huge turn off, but also makes her think you're going to be a mind-trip. Not good.

2. Chances are, her awareness level is about 10% of yours.

Especially if you're keeping up on my newsletters with a concept called "Stepped Awareness".

Have you ever tried played a song you loved for a friend and they just didn't get it?  

It's because their awareness didn't go through the same process that yours had - and resulted in you really liking the song...

To a woman who spends the majority of her time thinking about new shoes and clothes, celebrities and her problems with her boss, your talk about "the unique mating patters of the bonobo apes and how it relates to women in the club" is just too alien and weird for her.

This is the same reason why you'll sometimes see the biggest AFC ever with a smoking hot women. He's normal, and she can easily introduce him to her friends without embarrassment!

3. To a woman that DO understand it; what you say seems like a big deal, when it should be plainly obvious.

5-10% of women actually DO get this stuff. It's obvious, intuitive and accepted for them.

These women tend to also like women and capable of open relationships, which is generally a lot of fun.

But here's the thing - the guys they end up dating also get this stuff intuitively.

And when you get something intuitively, you'll never go out of your way to convince another person of it, or explain it like it's some huge revelation!

So the moment you get in that, the women who are most eligible for the lifestyle you're looking for, will automatically disqualify you.

So here's what to do instead...

Well - one of the most powerful techniques I use is this:

•    Understand society's programming,
•    Understand the woman's specific programming, and
•    Appear to be under the exact same programming

Keep your knowledge of reality to yourself (and of course, if you figure out anything great, I would appreciate it if you share it on my forum)

Understand this stuff and you'll see a big difference in your game.

There are men that will not be successful with women. Yes, it's true. A lot of them just won't get it.

It's not about they're not smart enough, appealing or somehow defective... It's actually a subconscious choice, that they have made without knowing.

Are you one of that loser men? Or you want to make sure that you won't belong to that group...

I'm here to tell you how.

What you will hear from me is a thing that probably would be heard in other gurus. Because it's  a very subtle but very powerful fix that most of them leave it out of their list.

First let me tell you about Matt. Well, he's a good guy and likes to socialize. He has taken a bootcamp with another pickup company. But sad to say he still doesn't get the success his looking for; in fact he's not successful at all.

Wondering if I have given him a help?? No. I didn't. An attempt maybe but nothing follows.

There are reasons why I didn't help him. One being he's too set in his ways and is stubborn.

BUT, that's not the real reason. If he was only stubborn I'd have an easy time changing his mind about things. The real reason why I can't help him is the same reason why he isn't successful with women.

As I said Matt's a good guy, but every time I talk with him he's giving a vibe like he wants something from me. In fact a lot of our mutual friends have said the same thing to me about him.

He always give this vibe of having an ulterior motive. He talks to you like a friend, which is good, but obviously you will feel a vibe saying he's trying to take knowledge, power and fun from me.

The same thing happens when he's talking to women. He treats them well and nicely  but he always gives off this vibe that on the corner of his mind he is up into an underlying intention.

That why we don't like hanging out with him and neither do women.

We do all have intentions with and it isn't a bad thing. If you express your sensual intentions openly they'll accept it, especially if you have good game techniques. It may even turn them on. IN FACT it will skyrocket your conversion rate if you do it the right way.

But if you hide your intentions you come off as creepy and weird. Women won't trust you or feel safe being alone with you. You could be the best actor in a pretending world but not in the real world... THEY WILL KNOW.

Being creepy is considered a "Death" card in the Tarot deck of your love life. It will destroy any chance of success you might have.

So now you know what might be going wrong. How do you fix it?

To start with, you need to be fun and unattached to the outcome whenever as you can. It could be telling a great story to a group or being a great host to a bunch of your friends.  It could also be a compliment (in the right way of course) or a tease that will spike emotions in way that is fun to a woman.

Come out there and start talking to women not only for the the purpose of pickup and sleeping with them, but because women are interesting, wonderful and fun to be with.

The next thing you need is to start being clear about your intentions. This doesn't mean that you tell the woman "The whole purpose of me talking to you is so that I can get into your undies."  That will instantly kill your pickup as fast as being creepy.

Just do a little changes in your behavior that will affect how your intentions be brought out and if you're consistent with what you're saying. You will see your GAME going well.

And there are so many small fixes that I could write a novel on them.

But I don't think you would want to read a novel about fixing your creepy vibe and then taking the months to implement it that it will require... Right? Don't worry I won't. I wouldn't want to spend the months writing that novel either.