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Picture this scenario:

You've been dating a girl for
three months now.

When you met her, things were hot,
heavy and passionate.

You couldn't get enough of each other,
and you couldn't keep your hands off
of her.

The sex was intense.

She gave you lots of affection.

You went to sleep with her in your
arms and a smile on your face.

Now, it's three months later.

The attraction has died down.

The passion isn't there and your
sexual "fire" has dimmed down to
barely a fluttering spark.

In fact, you haven't been intimate
with your woman for two whole weeks.

And there's no sign of sexual
satisfaction in the near future,
either.

What went wrong?

How can you fix it?

And WHO HAS TO CHANGE?
You... or her?

In this email, I'm going to teach
you the 3 main reasons women go
"stale" in relationships.

You'll learn how to avoid this
pitfalls, and a few techniques
to rekindle the spark of attraction,
even when it's on the verge of
being blown out.

Best of all - If you save this email
and keep it's lessons for future use
- You'll never have to worry about
your girlfriend cheating or wandering
to another man for love.

So pay close attention.

>> And if you're looking for sexual
satisfaction as a POWERFUL man,
I highly recommend you check out
the Dominant Sexual Power program.

In it, you'll learn how to reclaim
your sexual power... Take back CONTROL
of your sex life... And make any woman
attracted to you in as little as a few
SECONDS - Plus, you'll learn how to sleep
with her only hours after you meet her.

Check it out:
http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp
>>

Today's email was inspired by this
question from a reader - Just like you.

If you'd like to get your question
answered, send me an email:
askvin@vindicarlo.com

I check it personally once per day,
and I try to answer every question.

Sometimes it's personal, from me to
you. And sometimes I think your question
can help HUNDREDS of others.

Like this one, below:

***QUESTION AND SUCCESS STORY FROM
A READER***

"Hey Vin,

Thanks for the great emails, I've been
reading them every day for the last
four months and I've gotten better
and better with women. It's insane.

I met this awesome blonde girl with
great tits and an amazing personality.
She's funny, intelligent and she's
one of those quality girls you don't
meet in a bar or club.

I started talking to her in a Starbucks
after you told me that coffee shops were
a great place to meet women. She was
reading a book so I walked up to her
and asked her how she liked it.

It was really simple, just like you
said and we had a conversation for
about twenty minutes. I got her phone
number and then we went on a few dates.

Well, we've been dating for a few
months now and things are going
downhill. I don't know where I went
wrong. We haven't had sex in forever
and she doesn't really seem to be
into me anymore.

I mean, she barely returns my calls
or texts and she doesn't seem to be
excited by me when I'm around.

Where did I go wrong? Did I lose the
spark? She's kind of focused super
hard on her job and school so maybe
she's just focused I guess? What do
I do?

I really like this girl and I don't
want to lose her for good so help
me out Vin! I really need some
advice!

- Joey Q., Colorado"

>>> Hey Joey,

Thanks for the kind words about
the emails :-)

You'd be surprised how many emails
I get per day that are success
stories from the techniques in
these emails ALONE.

Nevermind the awesome successes
guys who read The Attraction Code
and watch other programs get.

It just goes to show you that
it's easy to help people,
if you're really devoted
to giving away great
information.

Anyways, let's move on to
your situation...

On one hand, I'm happy for you.

You managed to meet a great girl,
who seems like a great fit for you.

After all, you two have been
dating for three months.

Three whole months!

There was a time in my life when
three whole weeks was a long
relationship.

And there were times in my life
where three whole minutes was
all the time I could force a
girl to talk to me.

So congrats, big time.

Now let's get into your
concerns...

You say your girl just isn't
that passionate any more.

************************
WAYS YOU KNOW SHE'S READY
TO LEAVE NUMBER ONE:
************************

And your sex life has pretty
much dried up.

I've noticed women love to
control the sex in order to
manipulate men into behaving
the way she wants you to.

(Oddly enough, changing your
behavior to make her happy
will make her LESS attracted
to you. So she's really
shooting herself in the
foot)

The best way to handle
her controlling sex is
to rekindle the passion
in your romance.

Use lots of sexual tension
techniques.

Use lots of sensual languaging.

And most of all, be VERY dominant
with her - Especially in bed.

Because she's losing attraction
for you because SHE'S now the
one in control.

And no woman can feel hot for
a guy who lets her take control.

In - or out - Of bed.

Obviously, you can't rape her
or force her to do anything
she doesn't want to do.

But you can get her very aroused
hot and heavy for you. In fact,
check out DSP for some amazing
techniques that are too raw
to write about here:
http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

*************************
WAYS YOU KNOW SHE'S READY
TO LEAVE NUMBER TWO:
*************************

And even worse, she's started
to pull away from you, big time.

She's stopped picking up your calls
and returning your texts.

Even though you're officially dating!

Why the hell would she do that?
Simple:

She feels like YOU'RE chasing
and SHE'S leading.

The shift in power is all out of
whack, and you need to fix it
before she will love you again.

It's pretty simple, as far as
phone and text stuff, though.

Just make sure she texts and calls
you more than you text and call
her.

There are a lot of ways to "bait"
her into this. Especially by
sending her texts with tons
of Intrigue.

Texts like:

"OMG I just saw you twin"

or

"You'll never believe this..."

even

"lol No u didn't!"

Anything that gets her texting
you back.

Then just make sure she's the
one who sends the last text.

And you're all gravy.

In the grand scheme of things
this won't give you a HUGE
boost in dominance.

But where you're at, every little
bit counts.

Finally...

*************************
WAYS YOU KNOW SHE'S READY
TO LEAVE NUMBER THREE:
*************************

She focused on things like work
and school, and you immediately
thought it had something to do
with you screwing up.

Hey, sometimes work is just work.

Sometimes school is just school.

And if you're relaxed about it,
they won't turn into anything
bigger.

But if you get clingy and needy
when she starts to pull away,
she knows she's got you by
the balls.

And trust me - She's not letting
up on the vice grip any time
soon.

So this mistake is already in
the past.

Hindsight is 20/20, right?

But here's how you can keep
your woman from hooking you
by the gonads in the future:

When she needs space, give
her space!

It ain't rocket science, but
most men screw this up big
time.

ESPECIALLY in new relationships,
where the romance is the most
fragile.

You get "into" a girl.

The romance is hot and passionate.

And then she starts to pull away.

She needs space.

You either:

a) Give it to her

or

b) Try to figure out where YOU
went wrong

... And your choice, even if it's
only a split second long, will
change the relationship forever.

Because as soon as you get needy,
she has all the power.

And trust me, she'll abuse it
until your relationship pans
out like this situation did,
today.

She'll start withholding sex,
because she feels her pussy
is more valuable than your
dick.

She'll start pulling away emotionally
because she thinks you can't handle
her need for space.

She'll start giving orders and
commands instead of helping out
with YOUR vision, because she senses
your lack of dominance in the
relationship.

And no matter what happens, you're
in for a bumpy ride.

Most of the time, you're on a straight
road to relationship disaster.

Unfortunately, there's only one
way to right this type of mistake.

And that's to never make it in
the first place!

So before you chase after ANY woman,
ask yourself one thing:

"Am I Chasing, Or Am I Leading?"

If you're not leading, don't DO it,
don't SAY it, don't even THINK
about it... Because it's the
wrong move to make.

Instead, keep thinking of possible
ways to handle that situation until
you're LEADING - Not following.

You'll be more dominant in your
relationship, she'll respect you
more, your sex will stay passionate
and never again will you suffer
through the "shitty relationship
blues"

Now, if you want more information
about Dominance - including a step-by-
step "how to" manual for getting your
dating life on track - Check out
The Attraction Code:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

And if you want the system I designed
to get back at MY ex-gf, after this same
situation happened to me, check out the
Dominant Sexual Power program, here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

***HERE'S WHAT TO DO, TODAY***

1) Take back you DOMINANCE.

Lead, don't follow.

2) Use SEXUAL TENSION to re-spark
her sexual attraction for you.

So the sex is PASSIONATE again.

3) Ask yourself, "Am I CHASING
Or Am I LEADING?"

And never do anything that makes
you chase, if you can possibly
think of something that helps
you lead.

I hate when women play "hard to get"

Hate. Hate. HATE it.

Well, at least after I'm intrigued
because I can't have her...

And after I think about her at
least ten to twenty times per
day...

Finally, I start to hate her
after I decide I really like
her...

... Then I make my move, or let
her know, and she tells me I'm
"just not her type" and she
"doesn't want to ruin our
friendship"

THAT'S when I hate her playing
"hard to get"

But the brutal truth is:

Playing "Hard To Get WORKS"

And it works just as well for
men, as it does for women.

Because women are ADDICTED to
a little know human emotion
called "Intrigue"

"Intrigue" is the funny feeling
you have when someone stops to
take a drink mid-sentence...

... And you can't wait for them
to finish it.

And Intrigue is the reason
you still watch a TV show,
once it comes back from a
commercial break.

It's also the SECOND BIGGEST
emotion in romance novels.
Right behind sexual tension.

That's why women eat those tiny
books up by the MILLIONS per
year!

(You can learn how to master
both Intrigue AND Sexual Tension
in the Dominant Sexual Power
program, which you can learn
more about here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp)

Intrigue is also the main emotion
YOU feel, when a woman is playing
"hard to get"

Have you ever thought to yourself,
"I wonder what she's doing?"

or

"I wonder what it's like to be
with her?"

or even

"I wonder if she's hooking up
with some OTHER guy, right now?"

Those questions are ALL questions
you ask yourself when you're
INTRIGUED by another person.

And those are the questions you
can make HER think to herself,
if you learn how to play
"hard to get" the RIGHT way.

Using INTRIGUE.

So here's my three step guide
to creating Intrigue in any
woman you meet:

************************
HOW TO PLAY HARD TO GET
THE "RIGHT" WAY:
USING INTRIGUE
************************

***************************
STEP ONE: GET HER ATTENTION
***************************

This part's the easiest and
the hardest, at the same time.

Because once you know what
you're doing, you will auto-
matically get women's
attention without even
realizing it.

(In fact, both step one and
two are extremely easy. And
you can master them in just
a few minutes per day)

The DIFFICULTY here is learning
how to get the RIGHT kind of
attention from a woman.

Because you can get two types
of attention from a woman:

1) The RIGHT kind.

She knows your name, and notices
your face.

She sees you as a potential
boyfriend.

And she's excited to be near you,
whenever you're around.

Or.. You can get...

2) The WRONG kind.

She either doesn't know who
you are (you mix into the
crowd too much)... Or she
doesn't even like you!

She sees you like a friend
or companion. Even worse,
she can't imagine you
having sex with her
at all!

And she'd rather blow you off
than miss a date with the guy
she just met last week.

HERE'S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN
THE TWO TYPES OF ATTENTION:

Women notice the WRONG GUY
because of something he
DOES.

Women notice the RIGHT GUY
because of something he
IS.

Did you catch that? Let me
clarify quickly:

When you say something or
do something extreme, people
are going to notice you.

For example: If you pop a
balloon in a crowded room,
everyone's going to quickly
look your way.

And you're going to get lots
of attention.

Unfortunately, some of those
people are going to be scared.

Some are going to be pissed
off.

And nearly NO ONE will be MORE
interested in who you are
as a man.

So think back to a time when
you met a real, cool guy.

Did he say anything "profound"
to catch your attention?

Did he do something "unique"
or "crazy" in any way?

Probably not.

He probably "carried" himself
a certain way.

Which is just a fancy way of
saying:

"He was a confident guy who
made me want to know more
about him"

THIS is the attention you
want.

You want attention built on
WHO YOU ARE... Not WHAT YOU
DO.

I've devoted dozens of emails
to that topic. So you can
either sift through your
inbox for a few of them...

Or, you can wait a few weeks
until I write another newsletter
around this topic...

Or you can claim your copy
of The Attraction Code and
learn how this attractive
guy gets attention based on
who he IS, tonight.

Your choice. And you can
find The Attraction Code,
here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

Once you have the right
kind of attention, it's
time to move on to
step two...

***************************
STEP TWO: GIVE HER A "HOOK"
***************************

This is the same as saying,
"Make her INTERESTED as you"

It's just like fishing, which
is why I called it a 'hook':

First, you throw the bait to
the fish.

(In our case, you become an
attractive man with dominant
thoughts which cause her to
notice you the second she
sees you)

Second, she bites and gets
STUCK on the 'hook'

(In our case, you two start
talking and she gets 'hooked'
on a topic of conversation)

Third - and finally - You
do the intricate dance of
reeling 'her' in.

Let's talk about 'hooking'
for a second.

And let's drop the term
'hooking' once and for
all, because it only
serves it's purpose
to give you a visual
image.

A more accurate term would be
"generating Intrigue" or in
laymen's terms: "Intriguing"
her.

Now the wheels start turning,
don't they? I can practically
see you making the connection.

You start to feel the energy
and emotions you have associated
with the word "Intriguing"

And you should definitely notice
that these emotions are HIGHLY
sexual.

Because - and especially for women -
Something "intriguing" and mysterious
has a sexual allure to it.

So when you're intriguing to
a woman, you are ALSO sexually
attractive.

Now, why doesn't "playing hard
to get" work when you're trying
to be intriguing?

Simple:

Remember the two types of
attention we talked about
above? Great.

Then you see how ACTING intriguing
gets you WORSE ATTENTION than
BEING intriguing.

It's a very subtle difference,
so I'll spell it out in simpler
terms:

When you DO or SAY something
with your GOAL to intrigue her,
she'll notice and think that
you're trying to hard.

But when you say something
RELATED TO THE CONVERSATION
that just so happens to be
Intriguing, she'll be HOOKED,
quickly.

You can do this by using "intriguing
words" or "double entendres"

Words like "Wet, Slippery, Moist,
Thrust"... And any other word
that has a sexual meaning in
her mind.

ALSO - You can leave half of the
details out of a story.

For instance, if she asks about
your day, you can either tell her:

"It was great. I went to work, where
Tony was acting like an idiot. He
got mad at our boss so he THREW
everything off of his desk"

... Which tells her the whole story...

...Or, you could say:

"You'll never believe it. Tony
got mad and THREW everything off
of his desk!"

Which uses the same words, but
leaves out some of the details.

I can promise the first words
out of her mouth will be
either:

"What?"

"Why?"

"What happened?"

or

"Tell me more"

Because she's HOOKED on that
story.

She wants to know more.

And she won't stop asking
you questions until she has
the full story in her mind.

When you learn how to master
these "Intriguing" topics,
no woman will be able to
get enough of you.

Especially when you flow
the Intrigue right into...

************************
STEP THREE: PULL IT AWAY
************************

Because this is the 'secret
sauce' even most guys who
are AMAZING with women
are missing.

This is where the "hard"
in "hard to get" gets it's
meaning.

Because right after you
get her hooked, throw a
little sentence out there,
which tells her you're not
going to "give up the goods"

Basically let her know you
may not tell her the whole
story.

This works on the same principle
you use to tease children:

* Show her something she
wants

* Take it away from her,
as soon as she wants it

Now, most guys screw this up
because they don't know how
to BE something she wants.

And you handle that with DOMINANCE,
with INTRIGUE, with SEXUAL TENSION
and with everything I teach you
in my programs and newsletters.

The real secret is how to gently
'pull away' once you've got her.

Here's what you do:

First, get her hooked.

We'll use our previous example:

"You wouldn't believe it. Tony
got mad and THREW everything
off of his desk"

Second, she says something like:

"Wow, what happened?"

Third, you wait a little pause
(for dramatic effect, obviously ;)

And then you tell her something
like this:

"It was so sudden. You wouldn't
believe me if I told you"

or

"Ah, never mind. You probably
don't want to hear it, anyways"

These will drive her WILD!

And they're both examples of
"pulling the bait away"

Each is an example of one of
my two favorite techniques:

1) ESCALATING THE INTRIGUE

and

2) PULLING AWAY THE INTRIGUE

Both work like gangbusters.

And I'm going to devote a
future email newsletter to
10 ways you can use them
in your daily conversations
with women.

If you want to learn a few
dozen of them, right now,
then I suggest you check
out Dominant Sexual Power.

Make sure you pay CLOSE attention
to the section on INTRIGUE, because
that's exactly what we're talking
about, today.

(And take notes on SEXUAL TENSION,
too. You can ALWAYS use more of it)

You can find that program here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

And if you'd like to focus on
the FIRST step of being hard to
get: BEING an intriguing guy,
then I recommend you read
The Attraction Code.

In fact, you'll get the most out
of Chapter's 3 and 4, because
they teach you techniques to
USE it in your daily life.

(I forget what page it's on,
but the 4EP model will work
perfect for you)

Check it out:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

***HERE'S WHAT TO DO TODAY***

1) Get her attention by BEING
Intriguing, not SAYING or DOING
something special.

(Or you'll get the WRONG kind
of attention)

2) Give her a "hook" to bite
down on, by being an Intriguing
guy.

3) Then give it a pull, by
either:

a) Escalating the Intrigue
or
b) Pulling the Intrigue away

4) Have her eating out of
the palm of your hand :-)

Make sure you don't over do it,
though.

"Hard to get" is kind of like
catnip for cats:

Women LOVE it. Can't get enough
of it, in small doses.

But too much and she grows numb,
then it never works again.

So be smart about it.

I hate when women play "hard to get"

Hate. Hate. HATE it.

Well, at least after I'm intrigued
because I can't have her...

And after I think about her at
least ten to twenty times per
day...

Finally, I start to hate her
after I decide I really like
her...

... Then I make my move, or let
her know, and she tells me I'm
"just not her type" and she
"doesn't want to ruin our
friendship"

THAT'S when I hate her playing
"hard to get"

But the brutal truth is:

Playing "Hard To Get WORKS"

And it works just as well for
men, as it does for women.

Because women are ADDICTED to
a little know human emotion
called "Intrigue"

"Intrigue" is the funny feeling
you have when someone stops to
take a drink mid-sentence...

... And you can't wait for them
to finish it.

And Intrigue is the reason
you still watch a TV show,
once it comes back from a
commercial break.

It's also the SECOND BIGGEST
emotion in romance novels.
Right behind sexual tension.

That's why women eat those tiny
books up by the MILLIONS per
year!

(You can learn how to master
both Intrigue AND Sexual Tension
in the Dominant Sexual Power
program, which you can learn
more about here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp)

Intrigue is also the main emotion
YOU feel, when a woman is playing
"hard to get"

Have you ever thought to yourself,
"I wonder what she's doing?"

or

"I wonder what it's like to be
with her?"

or even

"I wonder if she's hooking up
with some OTHER guy, right now?"

Those questions are ALL questions
you ask yourself when you're
INTRIGUED by another person.

And those are the questions you
can make HER think to herself,
if you learn how to play
"hard to get" the RIGHT way.

Using INTRIGUE.

So here's my three step guide
to creating Intrigue in any
woman you meet:

************************
HOW TO PLAY HARD TO GET
THE "RIGHT" WAY:
USING INTRIGUE
************************

***************************
STEP ONE: GET HER ATTENTION
***************************

This part's the easiest and
the hardest, at the same time.

Because once you know what
you're doing, you will auto-
matically get women's
attention without even
realizing it.

(In fact, both step one and
two are extremely easy. And
you can master them in just
a few minutes per day)

The DIFFICULTY here is learning
how to get the RIGHT kind of
attention from a woman.

Because you can get two types
of attention from a woman:

1) The RIGHT kind.

She knows your name, and notices
your face.

She sees you as a potential
boyfriend.

And she's excited to be near you,
whenever you're around.

Or.. You can get...

2) The WRONG kind.

She either doesn't know who
you are (you mix into the
crowd too much)... Or she
doesn't even like you!

She sees you like a friend
or companion. Even worse,
she can't imagine you
having sex with her
at all!

And she'd rather blow you off
than miss a date with the guy
she just met last week.

HERE'S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN
THE TWO TYPES OF ATTENTION:

Women notice the WRONG GUY
because of something he
DOES.

Women notice the RIGHT GUY
because of something he
IS.

Did you catch that? Let me
clarify quickly:

When you say something or
do something extreme, people
are going to notice you.

For example: If you pop a
balloon in a crowded room,
everyone's going to quickly
look your way.

And you're going to get lots
of attention.

Unfortunately, some of those
people are going to be scared.

Some are going to be pissed
off.

And nearly NO ONE will be MORE
interested in who you are
as a man.

So think back to a time when
you met a real, cool guy.

Did he say anything "profound"
to catch your attention?

Did he do something "unique"
or "crazy" in any way?

Probably not.

He probably "carried" himself
a certain way.

Which is just a fancy way of
saying:

"He was a confident guy who
made me want to know more
about him"

THIS is the attention you
want.

You want attention built on
WHO YOU ARE... Not WHAT YOU
DO.

I've devoted dozens of emails
to that topic. So you can
either sift through your
inbox for a few of them...

Or, you can wait a few weeks
until I write another newsletter
around this topic...

Or you can claim your copy
of The Attraction Code and
learn how this attractive
guy gets attention based on
who he IS, tonight.

Your choice. And you can
find The Attraction Code,
here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

Once you have the right
kind of attention, it's
time to move on to
step two...

***************************
STEP TWO: GIVE HER A "HOOK"
***************************

This is the same as saying,
"Make her INTERESTED as you"

It's just like fishing, which
is why I called it a 'hook':

First, you throw the bait to
the fish.

(In our case, you become an
attractive man with dominant
thoughts which cause her to
notice you the second she
sees you)

Second, she bites and gets
STUCK on the 'hook'

(In our case, you two start
talking and she gets 'hooked'
on a topic of conversation)

Third - and finally - You
do the intricate dance of
reeling 'her' in.

Let's talk about 'hooking'
for a second.

And let's drop the term
'hooking' once and for
all, because it only
serves it's purpose
to give you a visual
image.

A more accurate term would be
"generating Intrigue" or in
laymen's terms: "Intriguing"
her.

Now the wheels start turning,
don't they? I can practically
see you making the connection.

You start to feel the energy
and emotions you have associated
with the word "Intriguing"

And you should definitely notice
that these emotions are HIGHLY
sexual.

Because - and especially for women -
Something "intriguing" and mysterious
has a sexual allure to it.

So when you're intriguing to
a woman, you are ALSO sexually
attractive.

Now, why doesn't "playing hard
to get" work when you're trying
to be intriguing?

Simple:

Remember the two types of
attention we talked about
above? Great.

Then you see how ACTING intriguing
gets you WORSE ATTENTION than
BEING intriguing.

It's a very subtle difference,
so I'll spell it out in simpler
terms:

When you DO or SAY something
with your GOAL to intrigue her,
she'll notice and think that
you're trying to hard.

But when you say something
RELATED TO THE CONVERSATION
that just so happens to be
Intriguing, she'll be HOOKED,
quickly.

You can do this by using "intriguing
words" or "double entendres"

Words like "Wet, Slippery, Moist,
Thrust"... And any other word
that has a sexual meaning in
her mind.

ALSO - You can leave half of the
details out of a story.

For instance, if she asks about
your day, you can either tell her:

"It was great. I went to work, where
Tony was acting like an idiot. He
got mad at our boss so he THREW
everything off of his desk"

... Which tells her the whole story...

...Or, you could say:

"You'll never believe it. Tony
got mad and THREW everything off
of his desk!"

Which uses the same words, but
leaves out some of the details.

I can promise the first words
out of her mouth will be
either:

"What?"

"Why?"

"What happened?"

or

"Tell me more"

Because she's HOOKED on that
story.

She wants to know more.

And she won't stop asking
you questions until she has
the full story in her mind.

When you learn how to master
these "Intriguing" topics,
no woman will be able to
get enough of you.

Especially when you flow
the Intrigue right into...

************************
STEP THREE: PULL IT AWAY
************************

Because this is the 'secret
sauce' even most guys who
are AMAZING with women
are missing.

This is where the "hard"
in "hard to get" gets it's
meaning.

Because right after you
get her hooked, throw a
little sentence out there,
which tells her you're not
going to "give up the goods"

Basically let her know you
may not tell her the whole
story.

This works on the same principle
you use to tease children:

* Show her something she
wants

* Take it away from her,
as soon as she wants it

Now, most guys screw this up
because they don't know how
to BE something she wants.

And you handle that with DOMINANCE,
with INTRIGUE, with SEXUAL TENSION
and with everything I teach you
in my programs and newsletters.

The real secret is how to gently
'pull away' once you've got her.

Here's what you do:

First, get her hooked.

We'll use our previous example:

"You wouldn't believe it. Tony
got mad and THREW everything
off of his desk"

Second, she says something like:

"Wow, what happened?"

Third, you wait a little pause
(for dramatic effect, obviously ;)

And then you tell her something
like this:

"It was so sudden. You wouldn't
believe me if I told you"

or

"Ah, never mind. You probably
don't want to hear it, anyways"

These will drive her WILD!

And they're both examples of
"pulling the bait away"

Each is an example of one of
my two favorite techniques:

1) ESCALATING THE INTRIGUE

and

2) PULLING AWAY THE INTRIGUE

Both work like gangbusters.

And I'm going to devote a
future email newsletter to
10 ways you can use them
in your daily conversations
with women.

If you want to learn a few
dozen of them, right now,
then I suggest you check
out Dominant Sexual Power.

Make sure you pay CLOSE attention
to the section on INTRIGUE, because
that's exactly what we're talking
about, today.

(And take notes on SEXUAL TENSION,
too. You can ALWAYS use more of it)

You can find that program here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

And if you'd like to focus on
the FIRST step of being hard to
get: BEING an intriguing guy,
then I recommend you read
The Attraction Code.

In fact, you'll get the most out
of Chapter's 3 and 4, because
they teach you techniques to
USE it in your daily life.

(I forget what page it's on,
but the 4EP model will work
perfect for you)

Check it out:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

***HERE'S WHAT TO DO TODAY***

1) Get her attention by BEING
Intriguing, not SAYING or DOING
something special.

(Or you'll get the WRONG kind
of attention)

2) Give her a "hook" to bite
down on, by being an Intriguing
guy.

3) Then give it a pull, by
either:

a) Escalating the Intrigue
or
b) Pulling the Intrigue away

4) Have her eating out of
the palm of your hand :-)

Make sure you don't over do it,
though.

"Hard to get" is kind of like
catnip for cats:

Women LOVE it. Can't get enough
of it, in small doses.

But too much and she grows numb,
then it never works again.

So be smart about it.

I've had days where I just
couldn't "get it up"

It's embarrassing at first,
because you're just hoping
and PRAYING that your little
buddy rises to the occasion.

Then it slowly dawns on you
that it's just not happening
tonight.

And by the time she's hot
and heavy... You're simply
not ready to "finish the job"

It's OK. It's mostly in your
head.

And if you're keeping yourself
from seeing women because of it,
today's newsletter is a god-send
for you.

In it, I'm going to give you
tips to TRASH sexual performance
anxiety, for good.

And if you want to check out my
personal system for mind-blowing
sex with any woman, any time,
Dominant Sexual Power is exactly
what you need:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

Today, we're pulling 3 questions
from my email mailbag.

If you want to ask me a question,
simply send it in to askvin@vindicarlo.com

I answer them personally, and check
that address once per day.

Let's get started!

****QUESTION FROM A READER****

"Hi vin,

I was recently was referred to you
by one of my other friends that told
me that you seem to be a pretty good
pick up artist.  

So I actually just joined your
newsletter and was hoping that
you could help me.  

I have been dating this girl for
about a year now and she recently
noticed that one of my friends
(who is really hott) likes me,
and my gf has accused me of
cheating on her which I never
have.  

Now here's the problem: She has
been so convinced that I cheated
on her with this girl that she
wants to break up with me and
says she doesn't want to be my gf
anymore and wants me to prove
to her that I love her.

(in a way she wants me to act
like her bitch)  

What am I supposed to do here
vin?? I love this girl but she
seems like she doesn't want to
get with me because she thinks Ive
done something.

I cant just let her go like that
you know? Thanks for taking the
time to read and respond to this
vin

thanks

- Alex M."

>> Hey Alex,

First of all, hats off to you!

You saw her games right away,
and saw that she's trying to
play "power games" with you.

Don't fall for it!

Because here's what's going
to happen:

Either you dump her now, and
you two don't end up together.

(Maybe she sees the error of
her ways, maybe not)

Or you "act like her bitch"
and she STOPS BEING ATTRACTED
to you ANYWAYS...

... And then you get dumped,
humiliated and your self-confidence
is SHOT!

No. Thanks.

Break up with her.

She's wayyyy more trouble than
she's worth. And if she's already
giving you cheating trouble...

... Well, my advice is break up
before the REAL trouble starts.

Next up...


***QUESTION FROM A READER***

"Hello Vin,

Thought i'd give u a quick message
to see what you think.

Basically, I am a university student
in my final year. I have never dated
a girl and I have only approached
about 5-6 girls...when im drunk..

Well, that puts me in a bit of pickle
because I have no experience and Ive
already formed my friends and they've
already formed their mindsets about me
and what I am like.

Im a pretty fun guy to be around
sometimes, except when im anxious
(lol obviously ).

SO, I am just scared of approaching
when im sober and it doesn't seem like
a 'university student' thing to do.

It seems like you have to get to know
people through friends and then through
their friends and so fucking on (excuse
my french lol).

I have realized that the reason I dont
approach or make full conversation with
any girl, its because Im scared i'll be
judged.

I know its pathetic but what can I do?!

I just cant seem to apply what you've
wrote in The Attraction Code.

I cant seem to 'take courageous action'.

This is the only book Ive read and from
everything Ive heard, I know its the only
book i'll need, if only I can apply it.

What do you have to say for this?

Thanks man!

- Rishi"

>> Hey Rishi,

Honestly, you're right.

If you can use and apply what you read
in The Attraction Code, you will never
need to read anything else about
picking up or dating women, ever
again.

But therein lies the problem, right?

Because talking to women isn't
the easiest thing to do, just
like you pointed out.

Especially in college, because
most men and women are introduced
by their friends, like you also
pointed out.

So how do you "take courageous action"?

(It's what I recommend in The Attraction
Code, to get over ANY fear - Especially
about walking up to pretty girls)

Simple:

You take one, tiny, courageous action
at a time.

And then you do one more mini step.

And then another.

By the time you know, you'll be
approaching girls left and right.

In fact, I find myself talking to
girls while I'm in the NASTIEST
situations.

For example:

Just last month, I was out for a
jog when I noticed a really cute
woman.

So I stopped, chatted her up and
got her phone number.

I got back to my apartment, and
my friend Alex (who was over to
watch the game later that day)
turned to me and said,

"Vin, you look like shit!"

I know, he's a subtle guy.

But I looked in the mirror,
and he was right.

I looked like I had been hit
by a bus. And then the bus
exploded all over me.

Yet this cute young woman still
gave me her phone number.

How did I train myself to "not
give a fuck" and "take courageous
action"?

Simple:

I took one baby step at a time.

And that's exactly what I
recommend you do, too.

Walk up to a girl and ask her
the time.

If you're still nervous, do it
again.

Once you get comfortable with
that, then move on to her last
name... Her favorite color...
Have an easy conversation...

Because here's the SECRET to
getting over your fears:

The MORE you DO something,
the LESS you're AFRAID of it.

So take lots of mini-steps,
and you'll be fine.

(Just make sure you USE what
you learn in The Attraction Code,
when it comes time to do some
REAL talking ;)

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php)

***QUESTION / SUCCESS STORY
FROM A READER***

"Hi Vin,

Love your stuff.

It certainly took my game to the
next level. With all the powerful,
fast verbal & physical escalation
techniques I have learned from you,
I am consistently attracting good-
looking sophisticated women in NYC
(my looks do help, but as we all
know; personality is king in
attraction, especially in this
day and age when looks and money
are a dime a dozen, in big cities
like NY).

My current mindset for sexual performance
anxiety is:

1)not seeking approval or validation
from my first-time sex partner
(relationships are a different
ballgame)

2) I am doing her a favor providing
her with sex

3)The more sexual experience I gain,
the more comfortable I will be in new
sexual situations.

These reframes are great but when it
comes to game-time and a new sexual
encounter and you start to get in
your head... we all know that it
does more harm than good.

My question for you is: what is the most
powerful reframe that you have used to
counter sexual performance anxiety.

Secondly, do you recommend cutting out
porn, completely...at least while trying
to break through this issue (ie. the mental
stimulation from porn that many of us
guys have become accustomed to in terms
of getting turned on, when in fact, it
is important to train yourself to be
able to get stimulated by your own
will-power) or is the B.S.

Any advice you can give would be
much appreciated.

-Josh NYC"

>> Hey Josh,

Lots of questions.

Lots of GOOD questions.

Let's start with what you're doing
RIGHT, FIRST:

You're using these techniques, that
much is for certain.

I like that you noticed the SPEED
of the verbal "bantering" and the
SPEED you get more intimate with
her through touch.

Lots of guys are a little too slow
when it comes to getting intimate.

Most of the time it's because they
don't want to rush her.

But as long as you move forward in
the RIGHT order, and WATCH for her
warning signs, you will
be A-OK!

Now, let's get down to your
sexual performance anxiety.

First I'm going to tell you where
I think you GOT this anxiety from,
in the first place.

Then second, I'm going to share
my top tips for ridding yourself
of sexual performance anxiety,
for good.

First, I think your mindsets are
HURTING you, when it comes to
sex.

Not the first or third, but more
importantly, the 2nd:

"Sex is a favor to her"

Well... That's half true.

What I mean is, you ARE doing her
a huge favor.

You are giving her AMAZING pleasure,
and sharing an intense experience.

The key word you need to remember
is SHARING.

Because sex with a woman is a TEAM
effort... Not just you "giving"
or "taking" from her.

Thinking of it any way else puts
too much pressure for you to...
... You guessed it... PERFORM!

I mean, imagine if the sex is
BAD!

It just means you didn't GIVE
her ANYTHING!

So mentally, you're keeping
yourself from relaxing, enjoying
the experience, and letting
your BODY take control.

So fix that first.

And then move on to...

****************************
VIN DICARLO'S QUICK TIPS
TO SOLVE SEXUAL PERFORMANCE
ANXIETY, FOR GOOD!
****************************

The key to not having ANXIETY
about sex, is to not have
EXPECTATIONS.

And the only way to rid yourself
of sexual expectations is to
relax and IMMERSE yourself
in the moment.

(I talk about the TECHNIQUES of
sex in-depth in my DSP program.
But I can't share the nitty
gritties here, because they're
a little too explicit.

So you'll find the MINDSETS to
great sex in this email...

... And the SECRETS for great
sex, here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp)

Try these, before you lay
down with a woman:

1) Take deep, measured breathes.

Count in, 2, 3. Out, 2, 3.

Sounds like yoga, and it is:
TANTRIC yoga.

The relaxing effect oxygen has
while it's flooding you bloodstream
will allow you to relax and
achieve MAXIMUM performance.

(And a little EXTRA bloodflow
never hurt anything, down there)

2) Think of this night like your
last night on earth.

It sounds heavy, but imagine
it was true.

Imagine that tomorrow, you're not
going to be around. Or at least
tonight is the last time you'll
ever see HER.

Because when you have that level
of urgency and intimacy with your
sexual interactions with a woman...

... You're going to focus on the
little details of the sights,
sounds and feelings.

Instead of the anxiety and "what
ifs"

The mental intensity will make the
sex MUCH better for her, too.

So try it out.

She'll love you for it ;)

Now if you want MORE sexual tips,
check out the Dominant Sexual POWER
program:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

And if you want a general, How-To
start with women, I highly recommend
The Attraction Code:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

(It'll be the only thing you need
to read... For good)

***HERE'S WHAT TO DO TODAY***

1) Relax, and take deep breathes
to relieve your performance
anxiety

2) Remember that it's you and
her on a TEAM... Not just YOU,
performing

3) Take small, mini-steps to
get over your fears.

And next time you're alone
with a woman, REMEMBER:

You don't need to go SLOW-ER,
you just need to be calm and
smooth, so she doesn't object.

She'll like the spontaneity of
it, as well.

I've had days where I just
couldn't "get it up"

It's embarrassing at first,
because you're just hoping
and PRAYING that your little
buddy rises to the occasion.

Then it slowly dawns on you
that it's just not happening
tonight.

And by the time she's hot
and heavy... You're simply
not ready to "finish the job"

It's OK. It's mostly in your
head.

And if you're keeping yourself
from seeing women because of it,
today's newsletter is a god-send
for you.

In it, I'm going to give you
tips to TRASH sexual performance
anxiety, for good.

And if you want to check out my
personal system for mind-blowing
sex with any woman, any time,
Dominant Sexual Power is exactly
what you need:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

Today, we're pulling 3 questions
from my email mailbag.

If you want to ask me a question,
simply send it in to askvin@vindicarlo.com

I answer them personally, and check
that address once per day.

Let's get started!

****QUESTION FROM A READER****

"Hi vin,

I was recently was referred to you
by one of my other friends that told
me that you seem to be a pretty good
pick up artist.  

So I actually just joined your
newsletter and was hoping that
you could help me.  

I have been dating this girl for
about a year now and she recently
noticed that one of my friends
(who is really hott) likes me,
and my gf has accused me of
cheating on her which I never
have.  

Now here's the problem: She has
been so convinced that I cheated
on her with this girl that she
wants to break up with me and
says she doesn't want to be my gf
anymore and wants me to prove
to her that I love her.

(in a way she wants me to act
like her bitch)  

What am I supposed to do here
vin?? I love this girl but she
seems like she doesn't want to
get with me because she thinks Ive
done something.

I cant just let her go like that
you know? Thanks for taking the
time to read and respond to this
vin

thanks

- Alex M."

>> Hey Alex,

First of all, hats off to you!

You saw her games right away,
and saw that she's trying to
play "power games" with you.

Don't fall for it!

Because here's what's going
to happen:

Either you dump her now, and
you two don't end up together.

(Maybe she sees the error of
her ways, maybe not)

Or you "act like her bitch"
and she STOPS BEING ATTRACTED
to you ANYWAYS...

... And then you get dumped,
humiliated and your self-confidence
is SHOT!

No. Thanks.

Break up with her.

She's wayyyy more trouble than
she's worth. And if she's already
giving you cheating trouble...

... Well, my advice is break up
before the REAL trouble starts.

Next up...


***QUESTION FROM A READER***

"Hello Vin,

Thought i'd give u a quick message
to see what you think.

Basically, I am a university student
in my final year. I have never dated
a girl and I have only approached
about 5-6 girls...when im drunk..

Well, that puts me in a bit of pickle
because I have no experience and Ive
already formed my friends and they've
already formed their mindsets about me
and what I am like.

Im a pretty fun guy to be around
sometimes, except when im anxious
(lol obviously ).

SO, I am just scared of approaching
when im sober and it doesn't seem like
a 'university student' thing to do.

It seems like you have to get to know
people through friends and then through
their friends and so fucking on (excuse
my french lol).

I have realized that the reason I dont
approach or make full conversation with
any girl, its because Im scared i'll be
judged.

I know its pathetic but what can I do?!

I just cant seem to apply what you've
wrote in The Attraction Code.

I cant seem to 'take courageous action'.

This is the only book Ive read and from
everything Ive heard, I know its the only
book i'll need, if only I can apply it.

What do you have to say for this?

Thanks man!

- Rishi"

>> Hey Rishi,

Honestly, you're right.

If you can use and apply what you read
in The Attraction Code, you will never
need to read anything else about
picking up or dating women, ever
again.

But therein lies the problem, right?

Because talking to women isn't
the easiest thing to do, just
like you pointed out.

Especially in college, because
most men and women are introduced
by their friends, like you also
pointed out.

So how do you "take courageous action"?

(It's what I recommend in The Attraction
Code, to get over ANY fear - Especially
about walking up to pretty girls)

Simple:

You take one, tiny, courageous action
at a time.

And then you do one more mini step.

And then another.

By the time you know, you'll be
approaching girls left and right.

In fact, I find myself talking to
girls while I'm in the NASTIEST
situations.

For example:

Just last month, I was out for a
jog when I noticed a really cute
woman.

So I stopped, chatted her up and
got her phone number.

I got back to my apartment, and
my friend Alex (who was over to
watch the game later that day)
turned to me and said,

"Vin, you look like shit!"

I know, he's a subtle guy.

But I looked in the mirror,
and he was right.

I looked like I had been hit
by a bus. And then the bus
exploded all over me.

Yet this cute young woman still
gave me her phone number.

How did I train myself to "not
give a fuck" and "take courageous
action"?

Simple:

I took one baby step at a time.

And that's exactly what I
recommend you do, too.

Walk up to a girl and ask her
the time.

If you're still nervous, do it
again.

Once you get comfortable with
that, then move on to her last
name... Her favorite color...
Have an easy conversation...

Because here's the SECRET to
getting over your fears:

The MORE you DO something,
the LESS you're AFRAID of it.

So take lots of mini-steps,
and you'll be fine.

(Just make sure you USE what
you learn in The Attraction Code,
when it comes time to do some
REAL talking ;)

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php)

***QUESTION / SUCCESS STORY
FROM A READER***

"Hi Vin,

Love your stuff.

It certainly took my game to the
next level. With all the powerful,
fast verbal & physical escalation
techniques I have learned from you,
I am consistently attracting good-
looking sophisticated women in NYC
(my looks do help, but as we all
know; personality is king in
attraction, especially in this
day and age when looks and money
are a dime a dozen, in big cities
like NY).

My current mindset for sexual performance
anxiety is:

1)not seeking approval or validation
from my first-time sex partner
(relationships are a different
ballgame)

2) I am doing her a favor providing
her with sex

3)The more sexual experience I gain,
the more comfortable I will be in new
sexual situations.

These reframes are great but when it
comes to game-time and a new sexual
encounter and you start to get in
your head... we all know that it
does more harm than good.

My question for you is: what is the most
powerful reframe that you have used to
counter sexual performance anxiety.

Secondly, do you recommend cutting out
porn, completely...at least while trying
to break through this issue (ie. the mental
stimulation from porn that many of us
guys have become accustomed to in terms
of getting turned on, when in fact, it
is important to train yourself to be
able to get stimulated by your own
will-power) or is the B.S.

Any advice you can give would be
much appreciated.

-Josh NYC"

>> Hey Josh,

Lots of questions.

Lots of GOOD questions.

Let's start with what you're doing
RIGHT, FIRST:

You're using these techniques, that
much is for certain.

I like that you noticed the SPEED
of the verbal "bantering" and the
SPEED you get more intimate with
her through touch.

Lots of guys are a little too slow
when it comes to getting intimate.

Most of the time it's because they
don't want to rush her.

But as long as you move forward in
the RIGHT order, and WATCH for her
warning signs, you will
be A-OK!

Now, let's get down to your
sexual performance anxiety.

First I'm going to tell you where
I think you GOT this anxiety from,
in the first place.

Then second, I'm going to share
my top tips for ridding yourself
of sexual performance anxiety,
for good.

First, I think your mindsets are
HURTING you, when it comes to
sex.

Not the first or third, but more
importantly, the 2nd:

"Sex is a favor to her"

Well... That's half true.

What I mean is, you ARE doing her
a huge favor.

You are giving her AMAZING pleasure,
and sharing an intense experience.

The key word you need to remember
is SHARING.

Because sex with a woman is a TEAM
effort... Not just you "giving"
or "taking" from her.

Thinking of it any way else puts
too much pressure for you to...
... You guessed it... PERFORM!

I mean, imagine if the sex is
BAD!

It just means you didn't GIVE
her ANYTHING!

So mentally, you're keeping
yourself from relaxing, enjoying
the experience, and letting
your BODY take control.

So fix that first.

And then move on to...

****************************
VIN DICARLO'S QUICK TIPS
TO SOLVE SEXUAL PERFORMANCE
ANXIETY, FOR GOOD!
****************************

The key to not having ANXIETY
about sex, is to not have
EXPECTATIONS.

And the only way to rid yourself
of sexual expectations is to
relax and IMMERSE yourself
in the moment.

(I talk about the TECHNIQUES of
sex in-depth in my DSP program.
But I can't share the nitty
gritties here, because they're
a little too explicit.

So you'll find the MINDSETS to
great sex in this email...

... And the SECRETS for great
sex, here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp)

Try these, before you lay
down with a woman:

1) Take deep, measured breathes.

Count in, 2, 3. Out, 2, 3.

Sounds like yoga, and it is:
TANTRIC yoga.

The relaxing effect oxygen has
while it's flooding you bloodstream
will allow you to relax and
achieve MAXIMUM performance.

(And a little EXTRA bloodflow
never hurt anything, down there)

2) Think of this night like your
last night on earth.

It sounds heavy, but imagine
it was true.

Imagine that tomorrow, you're not
going to be around. Or at least
tonight is the last time you'll
ever see HER.

Because when you have that level
of urgency and intimacy with your
sexual interactions with a woman...

... You're going to focus on the
little details of the sights,
sounds and feelings.

Instead of the anxiety and "what
ifs"

The mental intensity will make the
sex MUCH better for her, too.

So try it out.

She'll love you for it ;)

Now if you want MORE sexual tips,
check out the Dominant Sexual POWER
program:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

And if you want a general, How-To
start with women, I highly recommend
The Attraction Code:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

(It'll be the only thing you need
to read... For good)

***HERE'S WHAT TO DO TODAY***

1) Relax, and take deep breathes
to relieve your performance
anxiety

2) Remember that it's you and
her on a TEAM... Not just YOU,
performing

3) Take small, mini-steps to
get over your fears.

And next time you're alone
with a woman, REMEMBER:

You don't need to go SLOW-ER,
you just need to be calm and
smooth, so she doesn't object.

She'll like the spontaneity of
it, as well.

In a word: Kinda.

In a couple of words:

She knows some things turn her
OFF... For instance, bad breath,
bad hygiene and guys who are too
touchy too soon...

... But women rarely know exactly
what turns her ON.

Think about it: We're easy.

Men are simple creatures because
a woman with a good butt, legs,
face and a set of breasts turns
us on, easily.

And we're designed that way.

We're designed to want women
who are young, in good shape
and can have children without
dying during childbirth.

That's the result of a MILLION
YEAR "gene game."

What won on the women's side?

Well, to answer that question,
we'll have to dig a little
deeper.

And we may even have to travel
back a few thousand years.

Because modern woman got her
mating - therefore, her SEXUAL
- desires while humans were
still a TRIBAL society.

(Basically, when we lived in huts
and in groups of 20-50, and sometimes
even less. So before cities, civilization,
and WAY before the internet)

Early women had two options:

1) Mate with the DOMINANT male,
and have children who would
be protected from harm, fed
first in line and treated like
KINGS by the rest of the group.

or

2) Mate with NON-DOMINANT males,
and have children who may not
survive their childhood, because
the dominant male may kill them.

Obviously, when possible, she
chose the DOMINANT male.

This male would usually have
"riches" and looks, yes...

... But more importantly,
he had STATUS in the tribe.

He gave orders.

He helped others find food.

And he banded his tribe together
to fight off enemies.

So women became more and more
turned on by guys who have
STATUS and POWER.

Well... At least until
a few hundred years ago...

Because in the last hundred
years - and in the last dozen
or so years, in particular -
More men rise to powerful
positions without the
ACTUAL power that DOMINANT
men had.

For instance: 4 years in an
Ivy League school can get you
a job heading up a large
company...

... But if a girl knows this,
and STILL has more 'sexual
power' over you, she gets
turned OFF - Not on.

It all boils down to the
fact men have been trying
to BUY status for hundreds
of years.

Trying to OWN the cars, watches
and clothes that show power,
without HAVING any of that
power to wield.

So your modern woman has to
stare THROUGH most men's
bullshit - And figure out
for herself what your
status is.

The easiest way for her to
do this is to judge the
way you ACT around other
people.

Because if other people look
to you for answers, you must
be the leader.

And it doesn't matter whether
you drive a Ferrari or a Honda,
because your friends will treat
you according to your level of
DOMINANCE.

The more DOMINANT you are,
the higher STATUS you become.

And the higher STATUS you are,
the more she wants to have
CHILDREN with you.

(Subconsciously, even if she
uses protection, having sex
is about making children)

Therefore, the more DOMINANT
you are, the more SEXUALLY
ATTRACTIVE you become to her.

So what turns a woman on?

Well...

Fancy cars, expensive watches
and slick corner offices are
partly right...


... But only because they let
her know you're a DOMINANT man.

So how should YOU turn a woman
on?

By being a DOMINANT man, who's
IN CONTROL of himself and the
situation around him.

And a DOMINANT man who knows how
to hold a casual conversation,
then make her feel SAFE around
you - Which leads to sex.

In The Attraction Code, I teach
you exactly how to be a dominant
man - step by step.

In fact, everything you learned
in this email was taken directly
from a SINGLE CHAPTER in The
Attraction Code.

(And I left out nearly 70
pages of information, tips
and SECRETS in that chapter,
alone)

So by the time you're done reading
that single chapter - You'll never
again look at a woman like a scary,
intimidating person to talk to,
ever again.

In fact, you will understand the
secret thoughts she uses to convince
herself to sleep with CERTAIN men,
and not others.

Then, in the other 3 chapters,
you'll discover everything to
say to her... How to touch her...
And even how to act around your
friends to turn her ON.

(Sometimes you'll even convince
her to come talk to you - Before
you open your mouth. Before you
even look at her!)

And it's all packaged in a single,
one of a kind system called 4EP,
which teaches you how to be CALM
and IN CONTROL around women.

No matter how nervous you are now,
this system will make you smooth
as James Bond in his prime.

And if you're already good with
women, the 4EP system will teach
you the UNFAIR TRICKS most men
will never know.

So your friends will be begging
you, on their knees, to teach
them what YOU know about women.

And you can find it all, right
here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

Lots of guys focus on "when" and "how"
to meet women.

But they forget a CRUCIAL piece of the
picture:

WHERE do you meet women who aren't all
drunk, out of control and looking to
hook up with the good looking, rich
or just "high energy" party guys?

Because bars and clubs are HORRIBLE
places to meet women, if you're trying
to meet a girl you can settle down
with.

(Even if you want a girl with
girlfriend potential)

So in today's email, I'm going to
share with you my FAVORITE PLACE
to meet high quality women.

Girls who are smart, funny, intelligent
and beautiful. All wrapped in one.

And I'm going to teach you how to
how to talk to these girls so
she's into you, right away.

Because I hated playing the "flirting
game" TOO long, before I knew if she
was into me. And I bet YOU do, too.

>> For more information how to pick up
women, check out The Attraction Code.
It's got everything you need to meet
a girl, no matter WHERE you meet her,
and turn her into a loyal, loving
girlfriend:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

I got this topic idea today from
this email from a reader.

And if you want me to answer your
question, just send it to askvin@vindicarlo.com

I check that email once every day.

***QUESTION AND SUCCESS STORY FROM
A READER JUST LIKE YOU***

"Vin,

I started reading your books and
listening to your advice about
two years ago.

Since then, I went from a kind of
shy guy who's insecure around women
to sort of a confident player.

Not the obnoxious type, but more like
a smooth guy who's in control of his
attitude.

I catch girls checking me out when
I walk around and when I catch eyes
with a girl she usually looks back
at me a few times.

And I'm dating a girl I really like.
She treats me like a king, makes me
breakfast in the mornings and when
I have a stressful day she rubs my
neck and back.

She makes me feel amazing and relaxed.

So I'm not looking to leave her but
I kind of want to still "play the
field" you know? My girlfriend
is amazing but she's missing one
or two qualities in my perfect
girlfriend.

So I don't necessarily want to
cheat on her, I just want to make
sure I don't feel like I HAVE to
date her because I don't have
other options.

I was wondering where I should start
meeting women? I tried online and it
is pretty hit and miss. I use the
same things I say in person, but
the energy doesn't come across right
or something because I don't get
a lot of responses back.

Got any advice? I'd love to hear
your opinion.

And thanks a TON for all the great
newsletters in the past. You're
the real reason I'm a happy guy
today!

- Frank K., San Diego CA"

>> Hey Frank,

Glad the newsletters really helped
you out.

You hit on a key point: Guys who
USE these techniques GET RESULTS!

So congrats on that.

And you also had another great
point:

Girls DO act differently online.

In fact, guys who get good with
women in person actually DON'T
do well in online dating.

This is usually because guys who
are good in person rely a lot on
the dominance, body language and
non-verbal skills I teach guys
like you.

And when you go online, all you
have are a few words and a picture
for her to judge you by.

What bullshit!

That's why I prefer to meet women
in person, whenever possible.

YES - Sometimes it's scary

YES - I get shot down sometimes
(It's very rare now, but it
used to happen nearly every
other time)

and YES - You need to have
confidence in yourself to
make women attracted to
you.

Luckily, these are all easy things
to overcome!

You simply need to know WHAT to
say, and HOW to say it.

(If you want an extra self-confidence
boost, you could also check out
The Red Pill program, which is the
fastest way to confidence with
women:

http://wwww.GetTheRedPill.com)

I'm going to talk about what to say
and how to say it a little later on
in this email.

So first, let's talk about...

*****************************
VIN DICARLO'S FAVORITE PLACE
TO MEET WOMEN IN PERSON:
THE BOOKSTORE & COFFEE SHOP
****************************

Yup, I'm a cheater, I picked
two.

But it's cool, because there's
usually a coffee shop INSIDE
most bookstores.

So really, I only picked one:

A bookstore WITH a coffee shop.

(Take THAT, rules I made up!)

And here's why:

Bookstores and coffee shops both
have a relaxed environment.

What's even better, is they both
are places that ALLOW people to
talk and chat.

For instance:

You know you can't chat with
someone you met in a library.

And on the same note, talking to
a stranger at a supermarket or
grocery store is also kind of
creepy.

But if you're wandering around
a bookstore, or LOOKING at a
book, there's actually a decent
chance someone will start talking
to you about it.

Think about it:

You're in a section, surrounded
by books related to a common interest.

The people who are also there, SHARE
your common interest.

So meeting someone at a bookstore
is EASY and socially acceptable.

PLUS, it's low pressure for her
because she can just excuse herself
for quiet reading.

(Or maybe run behind a stack of books
so you can't find her lol)

Really though, most of the time,
she will be EXCITED to talk to you
because you two share a common
interest.

Or at least you should ASK her
about her interest in the books
she's looking at.

Because if she's passionate about
the topic, she will ramble on for
DAYS if you let her.

And the more a woman talks to you,
the more attractive you must be,
in her head.

You see, people look back on MEMORIES
to figure out what happened in REALITY.

For example:

You look back on the MEMORY of a friend
you knew in high school to decide
whether or not you want to talk
to him at the reunion.

And you look back at the MEMORY of
the last time you talked to a woman,
to decide whether or not you're
confident around girls.

So if this girl looks back at the
MEMORY of the first time she met
you, here's what she'll think:

"Wow. I talked to that guy for
twenty minutes! God, and I rambled
on and on like an idiot! I feel
a little embarrassed. Wow, am I
blushing? I must have really
liked this guy..."

Now, these won't be conscious
thoughts, of course.

In the same way the memories you
use to decide your favorite food
aren't conscious thoughts.

But they'll be running through her
head all the same.

So the more you make her talk,
the better.

Because the more of her TIME you
take up, the better.

Because a stronger MEMORY that
makes in her mind.

And the strength of that MEMORY
equals the strength of ATTRACTION
she feels for you.

Got the picture? Great. Let's move
on to WHAT YOU SHOULD SAY her.

Here's an easy rule:

Keep it simple, and situational.

This means keep it simple (easy)
and talk about something in the
environment around you two,
which I'll explain right now:

For instance, if you're in a
coffee shop, you can talk about:

1) What an interesting coffee she
ordered

2) How does she like the coffee
she ordered

3) How does she like the book she's
reading

4) What an amazing smell there is
here, because of the baked goods
and coffee

5) How cute she looks, and the
way she holds herself makes her
look very confident

... And the list goes on and on.

The formula for it is really
quite simple.

Just NOTICE something around you
two, then TALK about it.

And finally, ASK her thoughts
about it.

Because when you ASK her what
she thinks, you send two subtle
signals:

* You let her know you care
about her MIND, not just her
BODY

(Even if you don't, you need
to make her feel safe around
you)

* You seem like a guy who's
selfless and CONFIDENT.

A guy who can let others talk
and just LISTEN, because he's
confident enough in himself
to let go.

And letting people talk about
themselves is the highest form
of flattery.

Because she'll get to tell you
her amazing opinions, her insights
into human nature, and her likes /
dislikes / hopes and dreams.

And each one of these can turn
into further conversation, which
makes awkward pauses a thing of
the past, as well as never gives
your mind TIME to go 'blank'

This technique is something I like
to call "Threading", and you can
read all about it in the Conversation
CURE program:

http://www.ConversationCure.com/live.php

And once you get her phone number,
you should discover what to do from
there.

Including how to finally fix that
"online problem", using word for
word examples that are proven to
work.

You can find all of that, here:

http://www.NoFlakesDVD.com/live

***HERE'S WHAT TO DO, TODAY***

1) Go to your local bookstore
or coffee shop

2) Find a cute girl

3) Talk to her about something
around you

4) ASK her questions, and then
talk about the answers

5) Repeat step 4 until it's
time to get her phone number

If you've ever been in a break-up
(even if you did the dumping)
you know how painful the next
few days are.

How you feel like something is
missing in your life.

Or even like you will never find
a girl like her, ever again.

And then there's the SEXUAL SHOCK!

Going from having at least SEMI
regular sex, to no action at all!

Worst of all - You feel like the
intimacy you had with your girlfriend
took TIME to master.

So walking up to NEW women feels
scary, confusing and you don't
have a *fresh* gameplan in your
mind.

Well, you could either focus on
picking yourself back up by your
bootstraps and moving on with
your life.... or...

... You could catch the "warning
signs" and stop her from leaving
you, before the breakup ever happens.

In this email, I'm going to teach you
WHY women leave, and I'm going to
arm you with tried and true techniques
to keep YOUR girl around for as
long as you want her.

(Even if she's thought of leaving
before - These tricks will keep
her in your pocket, and by your
side)

>> These techniques were developed
from over ten years of in-field
experience, and no other man alive
has dated more women - and gotten
out of more breakups - Than I have.

In fact, on a monthly basis, I have
girlfriends finding pictures, hairs
and even tampons another girl left
in my house.

(You would think by now I'd HIDE
THE EVIDENCE!)

The fact of the matter is: There's only
one person I know who's better at
getting out of breakups than I am.

And he teaches HIS techniques for
saving a relationship, as the very
last session in Conversation Cure.

Check it out:

http://www.ConversationCure.com/live.php

And now let's start the email!

Today's newsletter was inspired by
the question below, from a reader
just like yourself.

(If you'd like to email me a question,
simply send a note to askvin@vindicarlo.com.
I check it - personally - Once per
day)

****QUESTION FROM A READER****

"Hey Vin,

I've been dating this girl for about
3 months now, thanks to the techniques
I learned in The Attraction Code and
your newsletters.

The sex is great and she's an amazing
girl to talk to. I know you have multiple
girlfriends but that's really not my
style so I'm very happy.

The thing is she always talks about
other guys. Especially about how she
works with models and actors and
other comedians too.

So naturally I try my best not to
get jealous. I even tease her about
it or tell her "Wow, he's probably
cute you should totally date him"
and she giggles then comes running
at me.

But recently she's been a little
distant and I can't seem to connect
to her on an emotional level like
I did before.

I just got back from a business trip,
so I wonder if my ignoring her a
little bit while I was away caused
anything weird to happen.

Anyways, I was wondering if you think
she's thinking of leaving me. Like
are there any warning signs?

I'd like to be prepared and arm
myself just in case. Most importantly
though, I'd like to learn how to stop
her from leaving at all.

Because I really like her and not having
to work for sex or scrounge around at
some bar is a great feeling.

What do you think? And can you help
me out?

- Ed Little Rock, AR"

>> Hey Ed,

Thanks for the props about The Attraction
Code and the newsletters.

I spent months (well, really, ten years
of my life) on The Attraction Code.

And I spend at least two hours every day
writing an email to send to you.

So the fact you noticed the work really
makes a difference in my day :)

And on to your email:

You're doing a LOT of things right.

First, you're conscious of the fact
she's trying to make you jealous.

And you know you shouldn't buy into
it.

Second, you actually PUSH HER AWAY
a little bit, when she talks about
those guys.

This is GOOD.

Because women hate a needy guy who
always needs her to say "No Baby,
You're The Best Boyfriend I've
Ever Had"

Because then SHES wears the pants
in the relationship.

And she doesn't feel DOMINATED by
her man.

(If you're just tuning in - Dominated
doesn't mean degraded or used, it
simply means women like men who
have confidence and POWER in
their lives)

*******************************
WHEN YOUR WOMAN HAS THE POWER,
SHE'LL LOOK FOR ANOTHER MAN
WHO HAS MORE DOMINANCE THAN HER
*******************************

And that's the long and short of it.

It's the only reason a woman is
unhappy in a relationship, as long
as your sex life is good.

(And if your sex life could use some
pumping up, I highly recommend you
check out Dominant Sexual Power,
for obvious reasons:
http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp)

In fact, let's dive right in to
the top 3 reasons women LEAVE,
and what to do about each situation:

***********************************
THE TOP 3 REASONS WOMEN WILL LEAVE,
AND HOW TO PUT THEM ON ICE FOR GOOD
***********************************

**********************
REASON WOMEN LEAVE #1:
SHE HAS ALL THE POWER
**********************

You may be thinking to yourself
"Well duh"

And if you are - That's a good thing,
although you probably don't understand
how MUCH power you need to have.

Now if you're thinking "But some
women are just STRONG FUCKING
WOMEN"...

... Well, then you start to see
the problem.

Because STRONG women need STRONGER
men.

In fact, I was talking with a girl
friend of mine the other day and
the topic got around to guys
who are trying to date her.

She told me about guys who showed
up with flowers...

She told me about guys who wrote
her romantic poetry and notes...

She told me about guys who paid
for EVERYTHING at dinner...

... And as she told me these
stories (which are ROMANTIC to
some women)...

... She made these guys out to
be LOSERS. Losers!

And these poor suckers probably
thought she was falling in love
with them!

Here's why she's so "cold":

Think about a boss you've had
where you thought you knew more
than him.

(And if you can't remember one,
make one up)

You probably thought:

"God, I can run the company better
than this guy"

or

"He's such a hack! I deserve that job!"

Or... and here's the real shocker...

"Why am I still here? I COULD DO
SO MUCH BETTER!!!!!!!!!"

Because that's the sentence floating
through a strong girl's head when
she's matched up with a wussy guy
who doesn't "get" dominance.

She feels like she could do "better"

So if the sex isn't amazing, or if
he isn't loaded with money

(and lots of times she'll leave,
even if he's rich)

... She'll grow bored and make
a move right towards the door.

The way to stop her is to be the
stronger MAN in the relationship.

And you achieve that by being
DOMINANT and MAKING DECISIONS
and TAKING ACTION when you two
have different opinions.

You can learn all about dominance
in The Attraction Code:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

In fact, it's the only book out
there that talks about dominance
and how it relates to meeting,
sleeping with and DATING women.

But the real take-away from this
section is that YOU NEED TO BE
THE DOMINANT GUY TO MAKE A
WOMAN RESPECT YOU.

Speaking of respect...

***********************
REASON WOMEN LEAVE #2:
SHE DOESN'T RESPECT YOU
***********************

This is just a little different
than her having power over you.

And it's WORSE.

Because when she doesn't respect
you, she not only has the power and
the control...

... She also uses it to make your
life miserable.

I'm sure you've seen "pocket husbands"
or guys who let their women walk all
over them.

In fact, last night, I was eating
dinner with my girlfriend.

And at the table across from us, there
was this young couple fighting.

Well, they weren't fighting.

SHE was fighting.

SHE was calling him names, and criticizing
his family.

SHE was even saying - OUT LOUD -
How lowsy their sex life is.

And HE... Well...


... He just sat there and took it.

One of two things are going to
happen to that couple.

They're either:

A) Going to break up in no time
flat

or

B) She's going to get addicted to
that power, and hold it over his
head forever.

No matter WHICH ONE happens, HIS
life is going to be miserable.

My marriage was like that, when
I was only 20 years old.

It lasted 6 months and it was a
fucking nightmare.

Fights every night and sex once
per month. If I was lucky.

I've decided to never again
stay in an abusive relationship.

I've learned the techniques to
keep her from holding her PUSSY
over my head as a "reward" for
good behavior.

And I've dedicated my life to
healthy, sexual and fulfilling
relationships with women I truly
love and find fascinating.

How about you?

If you have - Good for you!

Welcome to the world of the enlightened
man, who understands women want dominant
men with status as much as we lust over
a girl with a great set of breasts.

If you haven't - Here's your
wake up call.

And here's a little tip to help you:

If you ever hear your girlfriend,
girl FRIEND or even a girl you just
met say something you wouldn't
tolerate from a little brother
or sister...

(make one up, if you don't already
have one. And remember - You don't
take SHIT from your little brother ;)

... Then either:

1) Walk away.

Leave her standing there, by herself.

Because she hasn't earned the right
to be in you presence.

It's the truth.

You NEED to respect yourself.

And the people around you who
don't respect you shouldn't be
allowed to associate with you
at ALL.

or

2) Tell her to shut up.

Tell her what she just said is
EXTREMELY disrespectful.

And tell her that if she says
anything like that ever again,
you're going to pull the car
over and kick her out on the
side of the road.

(Make your threat fit the
situation)

And be serious about it.

Women who treat you like
shit shouldn't be part of
your life.

You want a beautiful,  funny,
intelligent girl with a GREAT
personality.

Best of all - She's out there,
waiting.

So don't waste your time with
the losers.

Give her one chance to "shape up"
then kick her out on her ass.

Or try to "shape" her into a
good girl.

This is extremely tough.

And it's very advanced.

But if you know a few ways to talk
to women - specific ways, grounded
in behavior modification psychology -
You can turn nearly any woman into
your "perfect girl", without too
much work.

I talk about shaping in the
S-Cubed System. You can find
out more, here:

http://www.GoCubeYourself.com

But if she doesn't have the power...

And if she respects you, or at least
tries...

Then there's only ONE reason
a woman would ever leave you:

***********************
REASON WOMEN LEAVE #3:
THE SEX ISN'T GOOD
**********************

AND:

She's not telling you that it
sucks.

That last sentence is the worst
part about it.

Because unless she flat out tells
you your love life needs work,
it's nearly impossible to tell
if she's faking it.

(HINT: The REAL good girls can
even fake physical 'symptoms'
of an orgasm)

And if she feels sexually frustrated,
it may not cause her to leave you...

... But you can bet she'll find
another guy to satisfy her,
sexually!

So don't take that chance!

If you see this warning sign,
work on your sex skills, pronto:

****THE AMOUNT OF SEX YOUR TWO
HAVE GOES DOWN, DRAMATICALLY****

Because think about it:

She hasn't suddenly started
NOT liking sex.

And you haven't been fulfilling
her sexual needs.

So she's probably at least LOOKING
to get "Filled" somewhere else.

Following me so far? Great.

So what do you do, to keep your
sex life active? Simple:

MORE DOMINANCE.

MORE VARIETY.

AND A COMBINATION OF BOTH OF
THE ABOVE.

Try new places and positions.

Tell her what you want, instead
of asking her.

And be the leader in the bedroom,
just like you are in your dating
life.

She'll love it.

Because 90% of the female orgasm
starts in her MIND.

And DOMINANCE makes her MENTALLY
READY to have sex with you.

So when you're DOMINANT to her,
DURING sex, her orgasm is pretty
much an afterthought.

And the 'technique' as far as
inches and angles becomes
second nature to YOUR body.

So take over, and make her like
it.

If you want tips and exact
WAYS to make your sex life
exciting.... Well... Your
email would never in a
million years let me type
them out.

So check out the Dominant Sexual
Power program.

It's really inexpensive, and
there's no risk if it doesn't
work for you.

(It WILL, because it teaches you
how to use dominance, vision,
compliance and shaping to create
a sexual EXPERIENCE to any
woman you meet.

And it shows you how to unlock
you own sexual POWER, so women
you just met will know you're
something special)

Check it out, here:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

And if you want some advice
about being a dominant man
in general, I highly recommend
you check out The Attraction Code.

It's a must read for ANY man who
wants to get better with women.

And whether you have women treating
you like a FRIEND, or you want to
date hotter, higher QUALITY women,
it's got all the answers you're
looking for, packed right inside:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

****HERE'S WHAT TO DO, TODAY****

1) Check to see if your girl's
ready to cheat by asking yourself
these three questions:

a) Do I have the DOMINANCE in our
relationship?

b) Does she RESPECT me?

c) Has our sex life been BETTER
THAN EVER?

And if you get even one no, try
using the following techniques:

2) Be more dominant in your relationship
by being the leader and making decisions.

3) Make her respect you by "walking away"
if she does something that puts you
down, in ANY way.

Women like that don't deserve to be
in you life.

4) Keep you sex life spicy by adding
DOMINANCE and VARIETY to your bedtime
antics.

... Plus, a few tips on how
to overcome your fetishes.

(We're getting risque on this
one!)

In this email, I reach into
the askvin@vindicarlo.com
email grab bag and snatch
out 3 serious questions.

I'll teach you how to escape
the dreaded "Friend Zone"
(and it's MUCH easier than
romance movies lead you
to believe)...

I'll also teach you how to
master your own sexual energy
and power - Then put your
new sexual strength to work
for you.

(So meeting women turns almost
completely into "auto-pilot")

And finally, I'll introduce you
to one of the weirdest (in a good
way) emails I've ever gotten.

PLUS - I'll show you how to
get over your deepest, darkest
fetishes without sacrificing
your sexual "quirks"

So let's dig in:

>> I know it sounds like a lot to
take in all at once. That's why I've
put together a tiny package you can
try risk-free, that will boost your
self-confidence 10 to 100 times
what it is, today.

It's called The Red Pill and you
can find out more details about
it, right here:

http://www.GetTheRedPill.com
>>

***QUESTION FROM A READER***

"Hey Vin, Brian and Matt,

I am impressed by the quality of
the DSP training. This goes far beyond
the sex and dating aspect. It has lot's
of life coaching elements that help
developing a richer, nicer and more
valuable personality.

Especially the core mp3's have 'solid
feel' and are clearly made by a  
team of smart and honest people.

Although a training like this is still
very much a taboo thing, I think it has
very little to do with misleading women,
and very much with becoming a better
lover, which every woman would
encourage.

BTW, did you know that we have an
ex politician (which he did for more
than 20 years) that promoted love lessons
at school (rather than sexual education)
in Holland?

Unfortunately he publishes n Dutch..

regards,
(please don't mention my name
in an email)"

>> Hey,

Thanks for the kind words about
the Dominant Sexual Power program.

And I agree with you 100% - In fact,
my goal with this program was to help
men just like you become better MEN
and LOVERS...

... Not to teach you how to "deceive"
women into bed, or any trickery like
that.

(Even though it works just as powerfully
on a woman you just met)

I really am glad you're checking out
the program, and I want to point
something out that you're doing
right:

You're USING the information.

You're actually LISTENING to and
WATCHING the program.

Just putting these techniques to
work for you will instantly give you
a stronger sex life, and make dating
MUCH easier.

Because, like you said, the DSP program
is extremely "good" at it's core,
and is designed to empower you.

Not turn you into a sex "robot"
or someone she feels dirty about
loving.

Thanks a ton for the email.

And I had no idea politicians had hearts,
let alone knew how to love ;-)

(Watch me get email hell for
that one lol)

>> And if you want to check out the
Dominant Sexual Power program for
yourself - in order to be a better
husband, boyfriend or LOVER - Simply
click the link below:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp
>>

Next up...


"Hey Vin,
 
This is the first time I've done this
but I might as well go into it and tell
someone about my troubles.

Now I'm in college. I'm pretty cool
with lots of people and building my
reputation (basically a lot of people
know me)

I plan on being an athlete (I LOVE FOOTBALL)

Anyways I want to get the female game
right. I'm kind of stuck in between
both worlds.

What I mean is that even though I'm
the funny guy who everybody likes
it doesn't seem to translate as well
to the African American ladies
to love me to being more than
just a friend.

I've never had a girl before, and you can
easily assume the rest.

Now I've had some chances but I haven't
capitalized even though they were
good lookin. I WANT the best, you know
the girls I want.

I'm  a hopeless romantic because
I want to find that special girl
to spend the rest of my life with.

Now I am rambling but I want to give you
a feel for where I'm at. I am an African
American male who REALLY WANTS TO
UNDERSTANDDDDDDDD!! lol

I remember your email in which you
stated about how race doesn't matter,
I can feel for where your going but
many African American females have
that strong personality, and can be
hard to get "at". 

Now I want to ask you how much does
it matter if you never had a girl?

I love your emails and stuff.

I just want to become more aggressive
(this is the problem), OUT OF THE FRIEND
ZONE. I've begin to really understand
the confidence part and I am but man
... hopefully you can email me back.
 
Thanks,

- Sam
 
P.S. I know that my language and
sentences are off maybe but Im
rushing, so I can get your response."

>> Hey Sam,

Wow, we've got a lot of ground to
cover!

FIRST UP:

LADIES AT COLLEGE.

College women are like most women,
but are a little unique for a few
reasons:

1) They're HIGHLY TUNED to social
status.

Even more than real life, because
your JOB doesn't matter - But your
FRIENDS or CLUBS, do.

So the fact that you're cool with
everyone will serve you, big time.

2) They're much more sexual.

Which is great for you, because
- like you said - Sometimes
opportunity just falls at
your feet.

Now, if you've never been with a
woman, don't worry about it!

When the time comes for you two
to "do the deed" you can either
TELL HER, or just let it slide
and learn as much as you can
from her.

If you "finish quick" just joke
about it and tell her you haven't
been sexually active in awhile.

Help her stay aroused until you
get ready to go again. Or even
get her off with your hands or
fingers.

(This topic is better saved for
DSP or The Sex God Method by my
good friend Daniel Rose)

WHAT'S EVEN BETTER IS:

She's more likely to be attracted
to a "funny" friendly guy.

And getting out of the Friend Zone
is a LOT simpler in college.

Just follow these three steps:

******************************
HOW TO ESCAPE THE FRIEND ZONE
IN 3 EASY STEPS:
******************************

1) Stop seeing yourself as
her "friend"

Because you're not!

A friendship gives both parties
something as a reward for the
friendship.

She gets a shoulder to cry on,
a buddy to hang out with and
someone to sleep with if every
one of her other options run
out.

What do you get?

The chance to talk to her, and
HOPE she'll sleep with you!

It's not even. That's what
you fix next....

2) Fix your "balance of power"

Because the only reason you're
in the "Friend Zone" right now
is because she sees herself as
more "valuable" than you.

This is probably because you
WORK for her attention more
than she works for yours.

Put it back into the 50/50
realm, or she'll never take
you seriously as a lover.

For instance:

* Pay 50/50 for dates
* Have her come over your
place 50% of the time
* Have her listen to your
stories, 50% of the time

And really, anything else that
irks you or bothers you, either
have her quit it or halve it.

That's a good rule of thumb.

3) Get SEXUAL!!!... !

Use sexual tension, and
talk to her sexually.

Talk about sex.

Tell each other what you like
and dislike in bed.

Swap stories, and touch her
a LOT more often.

If you're her friend, it's
because she doesn't see you
like a lover.

Let her feel your touch and
think about sleeping with you
in her mind.

It'll spark her "automatic
wetness mechanism", if you
know what I mean... ;-)

Now, you can find a TON of
sexual tension techniques in
these newsletters.

And the best place to pick them
all up in one package is the
Dominant Sexual Power program.

It's less than twenty bucks:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp

*******************************
WHY RACE DOESN'T MATTER -
EVEN IF SHE'S AFRICAN AMERICAN
*******************************

I like how you referenced an
old email.

It lets me know you're paying attention,
and that you READ and USE the techniques
I teach you.

Because honestly, if you don't
READ and you don't USE, you
won't GET the results you want.

Keep that in mind.

Where you went wrong, however,
is DOUBTING THE POWER! lol

Women are women, and they respond
to the same basic dominance cues.

What was interesting, is how you
brought up the "strength" of
African American women.

This is important for EVERYONE
to know, even if you only date
a different type of girl.

Because this "strength" comes up
in EVERY AREA of life.

Lots of SUCCESSFUL WOMEN are strong
women who dominate most men, and
therefore aren't attracted to
them.

So here's my advice:

Be More Dominant Than Her.

Be the leader.

Make decisions.

And don't let her "run" things.

Because a strong woman is looking for
a REALLY strong man.

Think about friends you have who
just can't "keep up" with you
in certain areas of your life.

Obviously, you don't want to be
around them because they don't
challenge or inspire you to be
better.

It's just like that with women
but STRONGER - Because she NEEDS
to be with a dominant man to be
sexually fulfilled.

So if you meet a strong woman,
you better be a dominant, strong
guy.

This all comes down to mastering
your sexuality, sexual tension,
vision and compliance, which
are the four main things I talk
about in DSP.

And if you're looking for specific
tips, check out newsletters you got
two weeks ago, and 4 days from now.

You'll get a TON of tips :-)

Last one:


*** QUESTION FROM A READER ***

"Dear Mr Vin Dicarlo,

I am really impressed by your mails.

In your video you talked about a 5' 4"
guy tony!

HERE is my problem:-

I am 5' 8",good looking, 22 yrs old indian
guy. I am ok when talking to girls in general.

Yet I have 2 strange fetishes:

1) I love tall girls ...taller than me at least

2) I love big feet of girls that too only
the feet bigger than 10 inches...

Now I try to touch girls' feet when
they are sleeping in train because I
am unable to even think that I can
get a girl friend taller than me...

Yet I see exceptions. Other small boys
making out with tall girls...

The thing is that only tall girls mostly
have big feet and long toes and this is
a big turn on for me... I dont know from when...

One more thing if a girl of 18 or 19yrs
i.e. younger to me is taller to me, I
just get mad to get her by any means...

I just can believe that some girls can
have bigger feet than me though I wear
size 9...

SO HOW DO I TALK TO GIRLS taller than me
to convince them to be my girlfriend...

In india mostly girls want a boyfriend
whom they can marry in the future.

But I dont want to marry them and
even they can think of marrying me!!

So how do I convince them...
I am really frustrated. I even went to
a psychologist who told me cognitive
thinking...and said that I had just
social anxious avoidant disorder
and it will be fine!!

BUT IT DID NOT HELP ME...PLEASE HELP ME
IF YOU CAN...I WANT TO HAVE a TALL GIRL!!"

I would be grateful for your advice.

Yours faithfully,
- Prashant"

>> Hey Prashant,

When I first got your email, I
immediately thought it would be
better answered personally.

You know, to keep the nitty gritty
details between us. Because I thought
guys who liked feet or tall girls were
in the minority.

But the more I read your email, and
the deeper I thought about it, I
realized that your "problem" talking
to women, your "fetish" for feet and
tall girls and your "problem" talking
to them all stems from the same
thing:

You Try To CONVINCE Girls,
Because You Don't Think They'd
Like You As You Are.

And this is a common thread for men
around the world. Guys who like tall
women, short women, blonde women,
even African American women, like
our friend above does.

The one and ONLY thing you NEED to
know to be good with women is this:

"I am OK as I am"

Period.

You need to accept yourself.

Think of it this way - You are
NOT "flawed" in some way.

Even if you have an extraordinary
genetic uniqueness, or your situation
(physically or mentally) isn't
PERFECT...

... YOU, as a MAN, are NOT "flawed"

You simply are a man who has unique
skills, advantages and problems.

Like all other men in the world.

Prashant, you like taller women,
and women are genetically pre-
dispositioned to like men who
are taller than them.

I happen to like Asian women with
big breasts. And not only are most
Asian women flat chested, but they
also usually don't fall for Caucasian
guys.

My friend Alex happens to really
like Jewish girls, and their parents
hate him because he wasn't born
"one of the tribe."

My trainer Brian likes Latin girls
who think white men aren't passionate
enough to fulfill their needs.

And my friend and colleague Sean
Stephenson has a condition that
leaves him trapped in a wheelchair.

Yet he still dates beautiful women
who love him very much.

You see, your physical 'handicaps'
are all MENTAL... Not REAL.

What YOU NEED to do is tell yourself
"I am OK as I am"

And go from there.

Because if you truly believe that
YOU are a man worth loving, dating
or getting close to...

... Well, women will start to
believe it, too.

Tall.

Short.

Asian.

Jewish.

African American.

And even 5'3" Brazilian models
with green hair and lip piercings.
If that's your thing.

Because this whole "being good with
women" journey we're on is REALLY,
at it's core, a "Being a better
MAN" journey.

And if you focus on making YOURSELF
better instead of tricking or
CONVINCING her to like YOU...

... Well, she'll start to like
you.

And you, YOU... Not some fake
front you put up to attract her.

I built The Attraction Code around
this way of thinking.

And a full 2 years after it's writing,
it's helped thousands of men around
the world become better men...

... Better husbands, better boyfriends,
better lovers...

... And I'd like you to try it for
yourself, risk-free.

Check it out:

http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php

And if you want to start small, with
an easy self-confidence boost, pick up
The Red Pill program.

In it, you'll learn everything you could
ever want to charge up your self-confidence
about and around women.

Check it out:

http://www.GetTheRedPill.com

***AND HERE'S WHAT YOU NEED TO REMEMBER:***

Being good with women is about
being proud of yourself.

And then USING that pride to
take charge of your life.

To make decisions for yourself
and the people around you.

And to become a LEADER for you
and others to a better life,
for all of you.

If you can figure that out
(on your own, or with my help)
you will never again wonder
why women don't like you.

Or even spend a single week
single, unless you CHOOSE
to be.